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"Besides the given -- that we're thinking how hot the chick is -- most guys end up cheating for the adrenaline rush. It's a lot easier than stealing a car."-- Rob, 26
"In all honesty, I've only cheated after I heard that my then-girlfriend cheated on me. Two wrongs don't make a right. My answer is vengeance. Although there was no long-lasting relief from the pain that comes with being cheated on, seeing her face when she found out was priceless and gratifying. This was especially true because she had no idea that I knew what she had done."
-- Jason, 23
"If I had to sum it up, I would say that I wasn't thinking at all. I mean, I pushed her away a few times prior to the act, but those were just knee-jerk reactions. I guess I was thinking, No, I can't do this. And then eventually, I just gave in."
-- Andy, 23
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Monday 29 June
By Stacy Anderson
I am a woman and to be quiet frankly,"I don't know what men think when they cheat!" As an experienced woman I know that they weren't thinking. They weren't thinking at all. They weren't thinking about love or their relationship. Not at the present. Men and Women are totally different. Women will take a sentence and disect it instantly and have more than 1 meaning. But men will take the sentence and have the 1 clear, direct meaning. In other words, they say what they mean, and mean what they say. They don't have hidden messages because most men are blunt and want you to know what they mean when they say it. Whereas a woman, will plan and think out what they say so that it won't offend or hurt and it could have more than 1 meaning. Some Women are very blunt but for the most part, we try to behave like ladies.
Men are usually drawn in by the eye gate first, and then if they have a great conversation, and a way of carring themselves then a man will feel as if he has hit a gold mine. But if he just wants sex, then he will be drawn in by the eye gate and her actions to let him know that sex is all she wants tool Then never really thinking of the how it would affect their female counterparts, or their spouse. So men sometimes are just spontaneous and goes with what they feel at that moment never thinking about later. Most women, plan things out and think about the later affects of a cheating circumstance.
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Wednesday 01 July
By bill
your response was complete bullshit you are stupid. women cheat a lot too
Wednesday 01 July
By james
in my honest opinion its not the guys fault me personally Ive never cheated. But women its your fault its all your fault you piked the man guys are stupid and you know that its like dangling keys in front of a baby someone had more shiny keys. you need to buff up them keys bitch. now ive been cheated on plenty of times majority of my gf's and its because im vary immature not to bright and i don't dwell on it.
Wednesday 01 July
By Chris
All of these "thoughts" are pretty much the same thing. Uh oh...I don't know what to do!! PLEASE LET ME THINK STRAIGHT....AHHHHHHHH....ok fine I'll take the easy way out then!!! I'm not saying we're lazy I'm only saying that's basically what we think. And it's no excuse but at least we're not thinking "oh my wife/girlfriend sucks this is a good opportunity." The next article should be what she's thinking before she cheats. But it'll probably be the same thing. A woman will be put through the same pressure if she's aroused into that moment. Like that guy "rekindling his feelings for his ex-girlfriend" the woman might think what excitement to break from the present relationship for a bit for some excitement. The girl might "think about the consequences of cheating" before it happens, but so do men. I'm only 15 and I've never cheated before. I have thought of it though and know the consequences already. That doesn't mean I never will be pressured like the previous men. And women go through the same thing. Women might have more mixed messages with their sentences and they may think it through more...but reactions are always different and it only takes the right situation for someone to fall. These men had that kind of situation where they were either too pressured, too aroused, or it's just that our thoughts were jumbled up. Women can go through the same exact thing and that means that no matter how hard they think...they will have the same chances of cheating.
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Wednesday 01 July
By Lauren
I believe that men and women cheat because they need something different, something new then what they have in their current relationship. They can't be pleased for a long period of time, they get bored easily, they are probably suffering from Attention deficit disorder. All of this porn and magazines with sex and naked beings are putting new and "exciting" images into minds and making people realize they may want something different then the same sex with their significant other night after night. I think both men and women think about the consequences of cheating but they truly do not care enough to stop themselves from cheating. I think if you are in a monogamous and committed relationship there should never be a moment where you put yourself in a situation to even be close to cheating. Such as "sleeping" in the same bed with the opposite sex. Or getting intoxicated around the opposite sex without your S.O. there. Find someone who makes you happy, who pleases you and brings something exciting to your life. Someone who is special to you and someone you appreciate and then you will never want someone else.
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Wednesday 01 July
By habib3225
f*ck life
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Wednesday 01 July
By Drake
umm im gunna make this short and easy... not as short as habib! hah but lemme just say that im a 17 year old boy and i have cheated before.. i know that u older people are going to think well y is this 15 and 17 year old commenting when thier relationships are not even serious yet so it shouldnt matter... well it does matter cause its really just old habbits that will come back later. or maybe im wrong.. but i think that as u are young.. the boy feels that he can get away with it and he just thinks.. (or doesnt really think) y not take the chance and maybe get away with it.. but 90% of the time we get cought so we are basically stupid.. thats all i have to say:)...... uhhh that was longer than what i expected it to be.. hahaha! sorry
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Wednesday 01 July
By johnson1234
penises vaginas and anuses all love the others that are not themselves. thus we all just want every pussy cock or ass out their we have yet to explore. FUCK THE WORLD! literally u motherfuckers.
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Thursday 02 July
By Anaya
I think that everyone is entitled to an opinion and their own experience. I am a young woman of nineteen years of age, and although my life is just 'blossoming' I have experienced a variety of situations and circumstances. So here, I'll just fill in on what I've learned so far... I've cheated and I've been cheated on. I've come to find that there are so many levels of caring and loving for someone and you were never given a blueprint for love or lust or liking someone or how it makes you feel. People get into situations, you'll like people and they will or won't return those feelings.. and as far as those who do.. well.. you can either have the strong feeling- or you won't. Sometimes you think you care for someone sooo much and then you come to find through situations and outcomes that maybe that wasn't the case, or maybe they realized that about their feelings. The thing is to follow your heart. It doesn't matter who you hurt or who you'll love. Just know when you find it, to grasp it loosely to throw caution to the wind and enjoy the moment. Everyone is tempted.. everyone is tested, through this just understand more your own nature and character and that of your mate. Understanding the self is fundamental in a relationship the more you understand you.. the more you understand others.
No regrets & no remorse... Only Learning.
Life & Love is a Cookie... Eat It.
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Tuesday 07 July
By DeusExMachina
The real answer here is that the people who are willing to cheat (because YES, it is a CHOICE), then their relationships must never have been that important or serious to them anyway. I have been presented with many the opportunity, as has my spouse, but we know when to say no. I don't care what their tits, ass, or siren song is singing to you, you always have a choice. No excuses.
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Tuesday 07 July
By Mason Hardie
All these articles prove to me is how our society is one of cowards and children.
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Friday 28 August
By Stacy
My husband of almost 20 years says he never cheated on me,which i do not believe becaz he is only human.I actually hate that worse,the fact that he won't tell me the truth and he continues to lie to me.I think that is worse.
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Sunday 20 December
By Frances
STACY! It almost sounds like 'YOU' have a 'Guilty Conscience' about something 'YOU DID!' and your trying to 'JUSTIFY IT!'.................If 'that's not it, then I strongly suggest that you seek some counseling to figure out 'WHY YOUR FEELING
INSECURE AT THIS POINT?!...........i.e. For example: Have you gained a lot of
'Weight?'......Has something 'changed in your 'Marriage' or your 'Feelings.' ...etc.
God Bless and Good Luck to you. Please 'Heed my Warning, it doesn't get any
better by 'just hoping and wishing, or worse, by 'Badgering your Husband!'....
Would you really want to be that 'HURT!?'
Sunday 30 August
By K.
Stacy, if you husband of 20 YEARS says he hasn't cheated on you, maybe you should believe him! He may have been tempted (because he is human) but that doen't mean that he went through with anything! He sounds like a good guy. There has to be more to your story.
Not to mention everyone that I know that has cheated has cheated with someone prettier/handsomer! Usually it's because the other person is such a "giver", or more "loving", or "listens more".
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Tuesday 13 October
By horny1
interesting comment. i agree it is a choice. but for argument's sake, i am going to throw a monkey wrench in to the mix. when someone cheats it is a choice. however people who live a "certain lifestyle" are born that way. why is that??? homosexuals are stating they were "born" that way. lifestyle. when i see or hear the word "style" i think of fads, based on the definition in any dictionary. this means that "people" choose what they do in life based on their ability to justify or rationalize their behavior. cheating is no different than murder, robbery, or homosexual acts. once you can justify the decision, then you can do the act.
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Saturday 24 October
By candace
I am probably the oldest person responding on this site. At 58, my 1st husband cheated constantly and hurt me beyond belief, and after 30 yrs of marriage and 2 children I divorced him. I remarried on the "rebound" and now find myself in a "loveless" marriage. I have found someone w whom I want to start a relationship w. I feel I deserve to find out whether or not this person is right for me. I will leave the present husband one way or the other..I just don't want to hurt him any more than necessary. But, my feelings for the new person are hard to hide and control. Once you've been hurt, I think it makes you more aware of how it feels to be on the other side when you are doing the hurting....I will still have the "affair" but will be as discreet as possible.
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Sunday 20 December
By Frances
CANDACE! Your 'NOT THE OLDEST PERSON HERE! And "Your Decision to Cheat, is wrong!".....Making it "DISCREET" doesn't make it 'RIGHT!' Nor, is it really going to 'help you make a decision; in fact, you will be even 'more confused and 'Guilty!'
The 'RIGHT' thing to do is to sit down with 'your spouse' and have a 'Heart to Heart' talk with him and "explain" how you feel. Being as 'Gentle' as you could of course, with how you 'choose your words.' e.g. Like maybe: "(name), I have to be honest and let you know how I'm feeling lately, because I 'do respect you too much' to do anything that would be 'DECEITFUL' and probably hurt you even more than by not telling you, ..... I'm having some very strong feelings for some one else and I'd like to explore those feelings more and see if in fact I would truly 'prefer' to be with this person or not. I feel like our 'Relationship' is lacking in some ways and I need some space to see whether or not I want to stay 'Married to you or not.' Of course, the 'decision' of whether you want to go along with this is up to you."......You don't have to use my 'exact words' of course, but you 'Truly do need to try and explain your feelings to your spouse.' Unless you worry that he may get 'Violent' then I would strongly suggest having a 'Consultant' of some kind be present. The 'REASON' for all this is; he may be 'TERRIBLY HURT, or maybe 'NOT!' ....But, he will have to 'RESPECT YOUR HONESTY!'......And 'YOU' will not have to feel 'Guilty' or 'DISRESPECT YOURSELF!........(THAT! IS THE 'MAIN REASON!'), GOOD LUCK TO YOU!
Saturday 19 December
By Denise
I believe that if you have a strong relationship with your spouse or partner, you get along well, treat each other as friends, share your life together and are pleased sexually, then you will not cheat because it is important to you. But, if you are NOT happy, then i think that is a reason why men and women cheat. I personally have never cheated on my man. However, I have thought about it a lot. The reason I have thought about it is because I am not happy in my relationship. I have explored and found many man that are willing to have sex with a person that is in a relationship due to the fact that they are sexoholics and cannot get enough. Bottom line is - that you need to keep your partner / spouse happy and satisfied and they will not look anywhere else. When there find themselves in a situation, they will make the right choice.
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Saturday 19 December
By bibi770@aol.com
If you're in a good relationship then hold on tight. Life is hard and it can be too short. Live life, love and respect each other.
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Saturday 19 December
By slice29529
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