During the winter before my wedding, I was on assignment in Sicily, where I 
met Diego, a photojournalist with black hair, a scruffy beard, and warm brown eyes that could liquefy concrete. He was my guide in Palermo, driving me around the city on his motorcycle. On my last day, as we stood in a bombed-out cathedral -- him talking about World War II, me trying to focus on his words -- he started inching closer. Another inch. Then a fraction more, and he was in my personal space. The slightest gesture from me would have been an invitation. I froze. I was madly in love with my fiancee, so what the hell was I doing? The desire to cheat is hardly a new emotion for me. In fact, I can fairly say that if you've dated me, there's a pretty good chance I was unfaithful. (I'm really sorry!) You might even call me a natural-born cheater -- and I think I get it from my father.
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Wednesday 10 June
By John Wilson
It doesn't matter....people should enjoy themselves with a puritanical stick up their butts.
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Wednesday 10 June
By Dennis
i really can't say that i have seen a man yet that woulden't cheat if the moment
was wright. and if the woman was hot. but i't really all depends on if his wife
and are girl friend is takeing care of him. because when all the new is gone in
a marriage are long time relationship. and the woman is not puting out then the
man will find something new. so ladies when your man gets home snatch him
in the bed show him something new. i'ts really like going to dinner you really
woulden't wana eat the same thing ever day i't gets old. so give him something new.
Thursday 11 June
By Wrong again john
sorry john wilson but you are wrong again. people should not gain satisfaction at the expense of others well being that is just evil. so dont go around trying to prove this bitch correct. shes just another unfaithful piece of shit just like 90% of most other humans in this world. good try though.
Thursday 11 June
By Jim Gourniak
John- Maybe you need to wake up to the fact that too many girls/women out there are cheating whore bags of shit because too many people like yourself and the slutbag who wrote this article give these women "reasons" to act like selfish pieces of garbage who don't want to pay the price of their actions.
Thursday 11 June
By Roadrunner
John- Have you ever thought that you were a sick gay narcissist with no ability to feel. Try to get some cure before you get into serious trouble for being a sex offender.
Thursday 11 June
By Camel
Actually this reply is to ALL those who replied. First and foremost, please check your spelling and grammar as who can take anyone seriously when the ability to write is not present. Now for the heart of the matter, Who are we to judge or define cheating? Unfortunately we are human and as such have our own set of standards and definition. There is always two sides to every story and often times underlying issues are either unwritten or ignored. I for one am not ready to pass judgement unless I hear from both sides, i.e her significant other. That's the trouble with society today and explains the hatred that plagues us.
Thursday 11 June
By universal watcher
and thats why there are pimps in the world fuck bitches! i was faithfull till i found out all bitches the same just in different ways use to be a sucker for love i had chances to cheat i didnt but now its like i could never love again fuck bitches i kno the game and is gettin my revenge bitches
Thursday 11 June
By Darrin
Not sure why this article surprises anyone...God bless America...deceitful, untrustworthy, and ignorant!
Thursday 11 June
By Darrin
hey this is America...if somebody cheats on you, don't get mad...get even!
Saturday 20 June
By krue
when u fall for someone. Only then you will know the difference. theres sex , then theres love two different emotions, when its soulfull only then u will know.
Sunday 21 June
By Vykarslee
This is for the person that identifies with "camel"...........BRAVO! my sentiments exactly!......however, requiring perfection in spelling and grammer is a bit over the top. This is not english 101, no one is getting graded on how they speak their minds and not everyone uses spell check. They got their points accross didn't they?...........english is your first language?........english is my 5th language, so how did I do?.......
Sunday 21 June
By tonyg
The TRUTH is we are all the same. This girl has a problem with lusting in her heart, just like some people have a problem with lying, stealing, some with murder, not honoring our mother and father and wanting what others have(coveting).
We as humans have a basic moral code written in our hearts and at one time that moral code was writtten on stone. It was the Ten commandments.
Did you know God doesnt want us to commit murder? Did you know that Jesus said the hating someone is murder in your heart?
Did you know that God doesnt want us to commit adultery? Jesus says adultery begins in the heart when we lust for someone, when we fantasize and think about them in a sexual way in our heads.
Did you know that making promises and not keeping them is actually lying?
Do you know what God says about those who have murdered, commited sexual immorality in their heart, and those who have ever told a lie?
8 But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” - Revelation 21:8
You see we all are "sinners" which is to say we all have broken Gods Moral Law and there is punishment for sin -that is Hell. PLEASE understand that Jesus died for you so you wouldnt have to face that punishment. PLEASE Confess to God your sin. Confess that you have lusted, lied, stolen, not always respected your parents etc. and ask Jesus to save you from yourself.
Love tonyg
Thursday 11 June
By Adam
If you were really sorry, you wouldn't do that. I know you'll say that it's like you're being pushed into it by your brain or something, or that you feel like you can't control it. Well, maybe you should grow up and stop acting like a spoiled child. Maturity is about making the right decisions regardless of what you want. So, act your age.
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Thursday 11 June
By Jacob
Well your a slut. I am sorry to offend, but if one claims they are *madly* in love with there fiance but counter acts that love by being unfaithful you are classified as one who cant truly love becuase of your compulsive need to have sex, be it with others or who you are in a relationship with. Or, you are simply a slut. Either way it makes you a very shady women and makes me question these feelings of *mad love* you claim to have.
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Thursday 11 June
By john
jacob I would not say this person is a slut. she is lost, confused and has been brainwashed by what sociecty's concept of love is. television and media protray what they want u 2 believe is love. just like what they want u 2 belvie is bueaty. Love is the willingness and nothing short of giving ur life for that person which u love. Just hear hear what she said. says she love but in fact in action shows it with a act of hate which is cheating. Madly in love did u say...this is ture you maybe madly in love with hate if there is such a thing. Love is with action other wise it just empty word. the father of epmty word we all know is ..... that is right the 1 who is enemy 2 love. the 1 who rules ur house is not love if u r a vessel of hate. You think u get it from ur father....hmm the father of deception. there is hope if u choose. clean ur house and find the true master. He is waiting.
Thursday 11 June
By Erin
I really can't believe you'd say that. Do you live in a nunnery? What age is this? We should be open to what possibilities life throws at us. Not hiding behind some protective cloak. I say good for you girl. You just never know how things will turn out.
Thursday 11 June
By Cory
wow no she isn't confused at all she is yes in fact a slut. if you decide you would like to get together with someone then you fucking stick to that you dont cheat on them and hurt them.. that is just fucking retarded. like seriously there is no excuse to cheat none. cheating is not natural but polygamy amongst humans is natural. she is not confused she is just a natural piece of shit like most humans, pure and simple. =)
Tuesday 16 June
By Kelli
Jacob, you are so very right. She does give the meaning of love a bad name. There are people out here searching for an everlasting love, but how can one find it, when the world as harded and people are heartless?
I thought it was just men done 90% of the cheating, but the precentage as grown for women.
I grow up with a Dad that had numerous affrairs on my mom. Here i am at the age of 28, and cant pull myself to trust a man. Cheating is rude, selfish, and a heartless thing to do to somebody.
It confusses me a great deal.
Thursday 11 June
By Chesney
Blaming fate instead of oneself is always the way cowards sleep better at night.
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Thursday 11 June
By SanCrispan
Whew, best statement I have read in a long, long time.