Worried that your anger at your cheating ex-boyfriend is out of control? You could be right. Some psychologists are pushing to categorize bitterness after a traumatic event (such as a breakup or not getting a promotion) as a psychological disorder -- Post-Traumatic Embitterment Disorder. Experts say the condition is a lot like Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, only instead of anxious and afraid, the sufferers are angry as heck and spend all day daydreaming about revenge.
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Beyond Bummed
While it's normal to be a little depressed after a breakup -- or any sucky life event, for that matter -- 1 to 2 percent of the population takes their grief a step further, according to a presentation last week at an American Psychiatric Association conference. Embitterment occurs when people put a lot of emotional energy into something (like a relationship), and then feel completely cheated by life.
While they may not have the pronounced physical and psychological symptoms associated with PTSD and other anxiety disorders, sufferers' intense feelings of anger, injustice and powerlessness affect their ability to function day-to-day. AKA you're so consumed by IMing about your jerk of an ex that you can't actually do your job or go out and have fun with your friends.
The condition may be a factor in family annihilations -- when people "snap" and kill their families, often in response to financial or relationship stress.
We've Had It

While those cases are extreme, we know all too well how the pain of a breakup can inspire some irrational behavior. Consider the following real symptoms experienced by Lemondrop editors post-split:
+Subject spends all day researching ways to cut brake lines on old Chevy Lumina, but never acts on it.
+Subject literally does not stop crying for 48 hours.
+Subject burns all of ex's belongings on sidewalk in front of house (holding a Weber grill lid as a safety precaution), frightening away even the police officer who slowed to investigate.
+Subject reads Wikipedia's article on Louisiana Voodoo all day, every day, dreaming of a way to get a lock of that bastard's hair.
+Subject listens to "I'm Not in Love" by 10cc on repeat for 14 straight hours while drinking Popov and going through ex's Gmail reading cute chats with his new girlfriend.
+Subject sells departed ex's expensive pet lizard for $10.
+Subject buys $400 custom-made leather dress.
Tell us! What do you think? Could embitterment be a legitimate illness? What's the craziest thing you've ever done after a breakup?
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Wednesday 27 May
By AZ
I had a guy break up with me after a weekend of fun in Las Vegas....he left me for the Jehovah's Witnesses:-(
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Friday 29 May
By tanya
I can relate to what happened to you. I met a guy and dated him for 2yrs. before I found out he is married. He was that good of a lier.
Friday 29 May
By KNJ
omg AZ GOOD RIDDANCE!!! those ppl are F'd up!!!
Friday 29 May
By Gino
You must be one heck of a BAD date!!
Wednesday 27 May
By Samantha
Does Wikipedia track visitors now? How did you know that was
me?
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Friday 29 May
By Sandi
Apparently emotions are out of fashion. If you have them you must be mentally ill.
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Friday 29 May
By FM King
Evidently the writer of this article has been lucky enough to never had their heart broken at any time. If you get sad & bitter & lonely after a breakup you're mentally ill? I think NOT! It just means you're human!
Friday 29 May
By Sunday
The article isn't saying that all people who morn the loss of a relationship have mental illness. They're just saying that if you can't get over it and are doing crazy things that interfere with your life as well as your ex's, then you should take a closer look at why you can't get past it because perhaps you are dealing with a lot more than just the break-up blues. I knew people who were like that. Me, on the other hand - I guess I have too much pride to allow myself to fall apart like that. It's a big world out there and there are too many fish in the sea for me to feel as though my life is over just because my ex dumped me.
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Friday 29 May
By Strawman
Great sales Pitch for the Pharmaceutical Industry and Another excuse to sell poison
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Friday 29 May
By Mark
I broke up with a girl and she harrassed me for two years, I finally had to take her to court. She went to the market and got every magazine subscribing, you know the little cards inside every magazine, filled my name out on them and checked bill me later. I was getting over 100 different magazines in the mail weekly for about a year. My mail man laughed everytime time he came to my address. He said, Man you must of really pissed someone off. I was funny until I started getting hundreds of bills. Even the courts couldn't do anything about that one. I had to get an order of protection, can you believe it. At man having to get an Order of protection. It later got so bad, The cops would never do anything about it. She lived right across the county line. So when I call the police the could do anything about it because I lived in the city and she lived in the county. I would call the county sherif and they wouldn't do anything because she commited the crime in the city and since she live in the county they couldn't do anything about it. I was a nightmare.When the table is turned men get screwed when it comes to this. If I had done some of the things she did the cops would of picked me up in a New York Second. After putting up with this for two plus years, she came over unadnouned and I took her car keys and she was finally charged with get this criminal trespassing. What a joke the justice system is when it comes against me being threatened. I she left before the city cops got there they would say there is nothing we can do about she lives in the county, the county cops would tell me they couldn't do anything about because she commited the crime in the city. Told me to call the city police. What a joke and nightmare the was for over two years.
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Friday 29 May
By michele
This is just a little interesting detail that I thought that I would input here. IF someone signs up for mail under your name and address that YOU Didn't personally apply for, you might try contacting your postmaster at your local post office. Quite simply, its mail fraud, and identity theft. This was told to me when I could recieve no help from the local law inforcement. You can also do this, if you find someone using your address to recieve phony credit cards and so forth.
Friday 29 May
By berentsonw
My first thought was what did u do to piss her off so bad? sucks having stalkers ~ scarey. Never thought about the magazine thing, hmmmmmmmm. lol
Friday 29 May
By Susan
Yes, but what was your role in this situation? What did you do to her? My guess is not caremuch about her feelings, however it ended.
Friday 29 May
By Carolyn
That is crazy. If she committed murder in the city and lived in the county, she would surely get charged.
Friday 29 May
By missbeadsly
How could she stand you? Read your post. I hate it when people repeat themselves so much! ICK.
Friday 29 May
By Moira
Mark, I'm so sorry! You mean that there's no protection available from a stalker? That's what she was. In a way, I was stalked by a man who left me for another woman and then just seemed to show up unexpectedly wanting to rekindle it with me after I had moved on. I moved and didn't tell anyone where I was going, and then he couldn't find me.
Saturday 30 May
By idealfellow99@aol.com
Mark- The jurisdiction in which the activity takes place decides who is in charge of prosecuting the crime. Not where the people live. If the event happened to you at your home, then the City is the responsible agency. Think about getting a lawyer and a restraining order (you should be able to file that without a lawyer) and document all the events, especially the inactivity by law enforcement. Good luck!
Friday 29 May
By Nancy
My son right now is in the exact type of situation you were in - and its HELL. His charming, sweet , always kind and loving ex-girlfriend went PSYCHO after he broke up with her. She turned into a monster that I never knew existed but in movies (Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction even though there isnt another woman involved). She left the apartment, but kept the key and until he moved to another city, kept going into the apartment when he wasnt there. She'd throw his personal items in the toilet, knock over his tv, rip up pictures of him and his buddies from the Marine Corps - you name it...and when she wasnt doing that, she harrassed him with phone calls and text messages. She's called mine and my husbands job trying to get us fired by outright lying about us being drug addicts and drunks. When none of that satisfied her, she calls the cops and says shes the one being harrassed, though no one EVER responds to her calls. He's taking her to court in two weeks to get a PPO against her. The cops dont think a man, let alone a Marine, needs protection from a woman - which is total B.S. Just before they split, she pulled a knife on him, threw hot grease on him and threw ceramic plates like flying saucers at him - just because he wasnt giving her the attention she needed at the moment. CRAZY!! Because they live in differnt cities now, he's having the same problem as you mentioned..hopefully this wont take the two years it took you to get your life back.....
Monday 01 June
By Irene
"I had to get an order of protection, can you believe it. At man having to get an Order of protection."
Actually, yes i can believe it. What's so shocking about a man having to get an order of protection? Oh and another thing, you made a lot of grammer mistakes in your comment.
Friday 29 May
By Stephanie
Sounds JUST like my fiance's X. She has gone so far as to break up his last marriage by telling everyone including his wife that he was dead. She follows his every move. She emails and IM's me telling me that she WILL have him back. She follows him even up to the HOSPITAL where he was visiting his best friend in ICU and got them both kicked out and my fiance' taken to jail for "hitting her in the face" only to be released from jail because they saw her on the surveilence cameras at the hospital walking across the room getting into a chair to get a jumping running start and run face first into the wall across the room waving her hands in the air screaming "EYE YI YI YI YI YI YI YI YI!!!!" She has shown up at his house and pushed past him when he answered the door and stripped down naked in the doorway and said "TELL ME YOU WANT HER AND NOT THIS!" She has gotten his brother brainwashed into 'dating' her and getting him in on her revenge and drugs so much that she stole medications from my fiance's mother which caused her to have a stroke and later pass away from the stress it put on her body. She has faked pregnancies faked relationships with him and stalks his every move. If this really IS something being researched as a mental illness...USE HER AS A LAB RAT. She NEEDS HELP!