Don't like sex? Maybe you're an idiot. According to new research, women on higher levels of "emotional intelligence" had a greater frequency of orgasm than those with lower levels. Emotional intelligence -- which sounds a liiiiiiittle less than scientific -- apparently refers to the ability to recognize emotions in yourself and others. This elusive quality apparently grants some women the ability to increase arousal by fantasizing in bed or expressing what they want to their partner.
It's hoped that the results of this study will help with the development of new therapies for the near-third of women who have the sad, sad problem of trouble orgasming.
The results of the study have been published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine ... which is apparently a real thing, and not the name of a lost Barry White album.
Ten Famous Sex Myths, Debunked
Women only like bad boys and have to be cajoled into being in the mood, right? Ha! We consulted with Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of "The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex" and got the truth about 10 other crazy-pants sex myths.
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Myth: Women have to be in a relationship to enjoy sex.
The Truth: Your orgasm potential has nothing to do with whether you're single or committed. Having great sex has to do with physical sensations, not your status. What's more, many women report having stronger orgasms when they masturbate than they do with a partner.
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Myth: Women don't (and shouldn't!) masturbate as often as guys.
The Truth: Ha! There is absolutely no rule as to how much you should get yourself off. Do it is much as you'd like. In fact, the more you do it, the more you'll understand what it takes to reach climax and that can help you guide your guy when you're in bed together.
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Myth: Vaginal orgasms feel better than clitoral orgasms.
The Truth: There is no such thing as a better orgasm -- they're all pretty fantastic. They definitely feel different because they originate in different spots. Try experimenting and achieving the various types -- clitoral, vaginal, g-spot -- to see which you prefer.
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Myth: A woman should be able to orgasm during intercourse.
The Truth: Putting that kind of pressure on yourself may prevent you from having an orgasm at all. A lot of women are unable to reach their peak through straight penetration. Most need clitoral stimulation as well. So don't feel bad touching yourself, having your partner touch you, or even using a vibrator while he thrusts.
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Myth: Women don't get turned on by porn.
The Truth: There's no hard rule on this one. Some chicks like naughty flicks, others don't. If porn doesn't do the trick for you, try erotic literature. Lots of women prefer it because it allows them to use their imagination when picturing what's going on.
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Myth: Guys love lingerie.
The Truth: Many men just find lingerie complicated. Think about it, all those snaps and ribbons and straps are confusing and a pain in the ass to get off of you when he wants to get some. Most guys will tell you they much prefer a woman naked.
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Myth: If you're good in bed, you should be able to please anyone.
The Truth: Some people have instant in-bed chemistry, others have to work on it. That means, you could sleep with 10 guys and they would all have a different opinion of your skills. (And you of theirs!) Communication is key to being able to have good sex with someone. Tell him what you like and don't like, and ask him to do the same. If you're too shy to say it, show him by guiding his hands.
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Myth: Men prefer women who pursue them sexually.
The Truth: Evolution tells us the exact opposite. Most men like to feel like they've worked for a women's attention. However, that doesn't mean that you have to sit in the corner and wait for a man to approach you. Go ahead and signal to a guy that you're interested by flirting. Just avoid things like grabbing his crotch in a crowded bar.
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Myth: Happy couples always have good sex.
The Truth: No one always hits a homer in the bedroom. You could be in the best relationship and have an off night if one of you isn't feeling well or is stressed. If you are always having bad sex, it may be a bigger problem. If this is the case, discuss what you both need in bed to enjoy yourselves more
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Wednesday 13 May
By Roy
Yikes, My wife must be a female Einstein.
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Wednesday 13 May
By Anne
What a "crock"!!
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Thursday 14 May
By SharaSmiles@aol.com
YaHOO for you sir. I couldn't have said it beter, and beside's that I cant
spell worth a damn
Wednesday 13 May
By Anonomiss
Wtf? So does that mean that only 30% of women are intelligent? Lmao..
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Friday 22 May
By harmony
60%, retard.
Wednesday 13 May
By Frank
I've always found women who give good mind more attractive.
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Friday 15 May
By ADAM
COULDNT AGREE MORE FRANK!!!!!!!
Wednesday 13 May
By Kellanna
That's funny, I have no problem orgasming by myself and have a great imagination, but when it comes to having a partner it's not so interesting and I'd rather masturbate than actually have sex. I guess I'm really self-sufficient and intelligent!! lol :-) Also, I know quite a few emotionally sensitive and intelligent people who don't particularly care for the act of sex either. Maybe if you can do it alone and be satisfied you are the more intelligent one, rather than needing someone to help you along all the time. Ha! Research that!
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Wednesday 13 May
By John
Kellanna - Maybe you are narcissistic. If you want to try me as a case study, let me know.
Wednesday 13 May
By shralla
Emotionally sensitive does not mean emotionally intelligent. And it's just as well since I'm sure you repel most potential mates with your extreme self-centeredness. Just because you can't appreciate a good thing doesn't mean you're somehow better than those of us who can!
Thursday 14 May
By marshallcar
you may be on to something...
Thursday 14 May
By Megan
It may simply be because they don't measure up to what you can imagine. But if you express to them what you like they to do to you then it really does make it better.
Thursday 14 May
By Joie
Very interesting view. I am a man who has a vsey creative imagination with the ability communicate with my partner my thoughtd, emotions, etc while performing joint masturbation. This has become very erotic and a steadfast part of my sex lige. I agree with you that there maybe a correlation between masturbation and orgasms. The fact it takes a focused mind to continue to provide the brain with stemuli to substain tht person from intial arouseal to orgasm takes a bit intelligence with in itself. Share with me your thoughts please.
Wednesday 13 May
By BILL TAYLOR
My girl is a genious
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Wednesday 13 May
By nate
Jeez!! With her intelligence and my girth, she keeps the neighborhood fully intrigued??
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Wednesday 13 May
By Kellanna
John...lol...very funny. ;-) Maybe I am "narcissistic" in a way, but it doesn't bother me any...lol.
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Wednesday 13 May
By Meg
If I feel loved and cared about by my spouse I can have amazing sex- but if I feel taken for granted and unappreciated or unimportant to my partner forget it- doesn't matter how great he may look or how much money he has etc. It is about feeling loved and SAFE! If my spouse spends quality time with me and takes an interest AND also shares things going on his life then I feel connected but if he is blowing me off and spending his time and engery in other people or things I am TURNED OFF!!!! I am an attracive woman and I like myself but I can feel pretty ugly if my spouse is spending more time at work with his co workers especially the women he works with and neglecting our time and life together. I don't work anymore but I not stupid and I have a great personality- I am fun and like to have a good time- if my spouse is too busy mentoring other people or that bulls**t corporate team building crap then I not going to be into him at all- I am not a spicket cut me on when you want sex cut me off when you are too busy- if guys could just figure it out ( they sure seem to get it when they are having affairs) sex starts way before you get to the bedroom...
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Wednesday 13 May
By David
Funny Meg, my wife says the same thing, but if I did all those things you mentioned she would still only want sex 2 times a month.
Thursday 14 May
By mtkalayvor
OMG Meg you sound like your talking about my exhusband!! I totally under stand what your talking about.
Thursday 14 May
By mrichie
My xgirlfriend is to busy in her corporate world for me.I'm sick of it ...and moving on