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The sucky economy, credit card payments and mom's home-cooked meals have a lot of us moving back in with our parents. While the free room and board is always great, living with the 'rents when trying to get with a dude is not so great. A new story on AOL Personals offers advice on how to get your parents to stop being so nosy and give you a little make-out, er, breathing room.
Of course, the real experts are our recently moved-back-home friends who do this on a weekly basis, so we asked for their opinions:
"I always have to fool around in the car in front of my house, it's the worst thing ever," said Ang, 24. "It's like I'm a teenager all over again, I still don't think boys are allowed in my room."
"Since I live at home, I always wind up going to visit my boyfriend who lives in his own apartment," said Kristina, 23. "While it's great because we're never interrupted and we have a lot more privacy, the money I save in rent is being spent on gas."
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"My parents and boyfriend get along great," said Sadie, 24. "Because my parents are lenient, he's allowed to come over and sleep over as much as he likes. But with that comes trying to be intimate without them knowing. Just the other day my bf and I were having sex when my dad knocked on the door, I didn't know what to do so I blurted out a lame 'just a minute' and quickly scrambled to get dressed. It was awful when I eventually opened the door because he definitely knew what was going on."
Their stories echo the AOL Personals article's point: Negotiation is key. Being straightforward and honest off the bat will help set boundaries. So if you want your mom's constant dating questions to stop, tell her to butt out but make sure she understands when you're with someone worthy of your time, she'll be the first one to know.
And if mom and dad say guys aren't allowed to sleep over, try reminding them that although your mom still does your laundry for you, you're not a child any more and come to a compromise that all of you are comfortable with.
So tell us: How has your love life been since moving back home? Any tips on how to make the transition any smoother?
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Wednesday 13 May
By ibehoney2u
Well Im not a boomarang child~ but I am a parent ,, I have a 26 year old daughter that lives at home~ and an 8 year old son~ my daughter manages to keep her love life seperate and shes very respectful of our home ~ my neighbors son has moved back home he is 21 ~ He has been parking in front of my home with his dates for hours~ I WAS getting really upset with all this so last night I actually went out statred up my truck pulled up to them ,,and said oh its you ! well I dont know your friend here and Im not judging you but....we live here this is our neighborhood ,, if you need to get your groove on ,,, find a nice descreet place ,, NOT IN FRONT OF MY HOME! at the very least pull in your own drive way!~ if you cant afford a motel room , go get a cup of coffee~~
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Wednesday 13 May
By Kellanna
I feel for everyone that, for whatever reason, are back living with their parents and trying to have a love life, which they are entitled to being of adult age. I moved back with my parents after my divorce for 4 years and there were very awkward moments. You can't relax totally knowing they're on the other side of the wall, knowing you and your boyfriend are probably "fooling around"...awkward for them and you....but, it's only temporary. What's worse is I had a little girl and that made things even harder to work around. Maybe you and your bf/gf can get a place together and split the rent, if it's reasonable, or just spend more time together elsewhere until you can get your privacy back.
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Sunday 17 May
By Blackwood
I would never bring a guy for a sleepover, steady boyfriend or not... I mean... I'm living for free, mom cooks and does my laundry... it's too convenient... you get a roof and food for free (or an unrealistic fee, at best) like a child... but then you're adult or "mature" enough to bring men to stay the night or just have sex at your place... which actually isn't yours. that's the issue, it's not your house, it's your parents'. and as long as they cool with it there won't be any problem, but if they feel uncomfortable with the situation you should respect them as you're the one living under their roof, not the other way round.
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Wednesday 03 June
By Robert
Hey I feel for ya My wife and I have been married three years and due to debts and job losses putting us both out or almost a year we sold our house and moved back in with her parents. Even though we are married its still hard to have sex we never want to be to loud and just the other day her dad came and knocked on the door in the middle of sex. Thank goodness we dont have kids.
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