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Really, really bad sex. You know, the kind that leaves you wondering things like, Was it even in me?, What the hell kind of position is that? or Good God, how did your forebears ever reproduce if that's what they call 'rhythm'?

We've all experienced what The Frisky girls call a deal-breaker, but before you throw your sex-impaired boy toy to the curb, read these tips to figure out if there's still hope:

1: Stop Comparing Stats
When we start dating a new dude it's hard not to compare him to your ex. "I had broken up with my ex a few weeks before having sex with my current boyfriend for the first time," said Margaret, 23. "When it was over, I was more than a little disappointed. I found myself thinking about how different my new man's moves were from my ex's and that sex with my ex was ultimately better.

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Look, sex with your ex was good because you learned about him over time, right? So with a little patience and practice, you can train your new guy how to have you moaning -- but only if you stop bringing that nasty baggage into the bedroom.

"A couple weeks in, I decided to let the past be the past and started to work on having better sex with my new guy," Margaret added. "To my surprise, it didn't take much effort to convince me that sex with my new boyfriend, while different from what I had been used to for years, was actually amazing. And still is today!"

2: Give It Another Go
Sex, especially for the first time with a new partner, can be intimidating, nerve-wracking and awkward. So be sure to keep that in mind before judging a guy on his performance. "The first time I had sex with a guy I used to date it was horrible," said Meg, 21. "He was fumbling, I was awkward, and in the end, the experience pretty much sucked.

"A few days later he confessed to me how nervous he had been because he really liked me and felt like there was pressure on him to impress me. After he told me how he felt, we tried it again and as we grew more and more comfortable with each other, all the nervousness fell away. Soon we had a great sex life."

3: Cut Your Losses
Sometimes bad sex is exactly that -- bad sex. If you don't mesh, there's no connection or you find yourself straining to watch TV just to pass the time until it's over, it may be time to move on to someone who's actually worthy. Because you deserve great, mind-blowing sex!

"If you've done the deed with a guy more than three times and it hasn't gotten any better I say get out while you still can," advised Alicia, 24. "By the third time, odds are you've done it under the influence at least once and it sucked, you've gotten accustomed to being naked in front of him and it sucked, and you've pretended he was that hot professor you used to have in college and it still sucked. That's three sucky sex romps too many!"

So Tell Us: Does bad sex matter when it comes to dating a new guy? Have you ever dated someone who was hopeless when it came to getting it on?