Think of your BFFs like the supporting actresses in your life: They're always in the wings making the leading lady look great. (Think "The Golden Girls," left. )But sometimes, the biggest laughs come from random, unexpected cameos. We recommend you always have one of these women rounding out the cast.
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1. The Wingwoman
Who she is: The chick who can schmooze her way past any velvet rope, always has a great party trick up her sleeve and won't let you chicken out of talking to a hot guy. You might only call each other when you're newly single or your boyfriend is out of town ... and that's totally OK. In fact, the more opposite your personalities, the better.
Where to find her: Tap into your guy friends' girlfriends, cool people you meet at weddings, ex-co-workers with whom no more professional pretense is necessary, or a good friend's crazy/fun sister.
When to lean on her: When your ex is bringing his new model/professor/yoga instructor girlfriend to a can't-miss party.
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Friends
Jennifer Aniston and Courtney Cox have been best friends since their first day on the set of 'Friends'.
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Stars of 'High School Musical', Vanessa Hudgens and Ashley Tisdale are great friends even off the set.
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After graduating from the same high school, John Cusack and Jeremy Piven remained close friends until 2007 when career jealousy began splitting them up.
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Ben Affleck and Matt Damon, two little league friends, would eventually form a creative bond that would lead them to write Oscar winning 'Good Will Hunting'.
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Matthew McConaughey and Lance Armstrong out to keep each other in shape.
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Oprah Winfrey and her good friend Gayle King are all smiles.
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Cameron Diaz and Drew Barrymore act like Charlies Angels off-screen also.
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Penelope Cruz and Salma Hayek at the Arclight Cinerama Dome in Hollywood, California (Photo by Jesse Grant/WireImage)
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Victoria Beckham and Katie Holmes at the Grand Palais in Paris, France. (Photo by Tony Barson/WireImage)
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Childhood friends Beyonce Knowles and Kelly Rowland have remained close, even after the breakup of Destiny's Child.
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2. The Mom-on-Demand
Who she is: Someone a little older and wiser who's been through everything -- breakups, existential crises, career snafus, you name it. But since she's not actually your mom, you can spill some of your darker secrets with impunity. She's maternal by nature, so you'll probably get plenty of dinner invites with her fam.
Where to find her: At your office happy hour, a volunteer organization or at a gathering of your extended family.
When to lean on her: When you really miss talks over your mom's homemade banana bread.
3. The Superconductor
Who she is: More than a career mentor, this schmoozy woman is like the de facto mayor of the social scene. She's only a few rungs higher than you on the corporate ladder, but she seems to know everyone. She's happy to help hook you up with someone who can give your career a boost, and she feeds off the appreciation and awe you exude in her presence.
Where to find her: At networking events, women's business seminars, at alumni association events, or through a family friend.
When to lean on her: When you need career CPR -- you lost your job, want to jump ship, or need a personal introduction to the head of HR at your dream company. The key is to make sure you don't get in touch only when you want something. Schedule monthly drinks or coffees, and send links to articles she might like or suggest people on your level you know that she could hire one day.
4. The Thrill-Seeker
Who she is: The spontaneous, sensation-seeking globetrotter. You suggest bowling, she suggests an "amazing" place in Argentina where you can horseback ride through vineyards totally naked. While she's not the most stable type (good luck getting her to return your e-mails when she's on an ashram), no experience is too nutty or extreme in her book -- and she's psyched to help you write an exciting new chapter in yours.
Where to find her: Yoga or dance class, on an international flight, touring with her favorite band, or the unemployment office.
When to lean on her: You're beyond bored. Or you're looking for a travel buddy to explore somewhere your close friends would never set foot.
Cuteness Alert: Interspecies Cuddling
This little chihuahua's mother adopted three orphaned squirrels. Would that pictures with our step-siblings looked half as cute ...
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Once we saw the blog Let's Be Friends, we knew we had to do a gallery on the best of interspecies cuddling. Here, we have a rabbit and cat not only cuddling, but sharing a little snack afterward.
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A baby deer shares Eskimo kisses with the family dog.
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The cat seems happy and sleepy with its paws around this guinea pig, but what do you think that guinea is thinking?
This little mouse is named (seriously), Gohan, which means "meal" in Japanese. He was fed to this snake in a Tokyo zoo, but instead of becoming lunch, he became friends with the snake. True story.
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Not so much the fox and the hound as the fox and the skunk. And not so much cuddling as of yet, but just check out the way they are gazing at each other.
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Clearly, this little mouse had its life saved by the little frog. Nothing gets more precious than that, people!
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Wonder if this ailing hedgehog was nursed back to health by that squirrel? Either way, they seem to share some secrets.
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This kitty has to get her snuggle time in before she releases the turtle back into the water!
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Frida, the dog of one of the zoo workers, was brought in to keep the baby tiger Zoya company after Zoya's mom abandoned her. Fortunately, the three-month-olds bonded.
Alik Keplicz, AP
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Friday 01 May
By Flax chick
You also need to get rid of the "eating" friend and get some "healthy" friends. Before I dropped serious poundage, I had the friends that were always up for getting a pizza or sitting around watching tv and having oreos(double stuffed!) and ice cream.
I have not dropped those friends, but I now shop or see movies with them and do activities that don't depend on eating like piggies.
I also have some new friends that I run with or take a walk with. I lost over 80 pounds and changed my lifestyle. I have greek yogurt with fitflax every morning Fitflax http://www.fitflax.com is a golden roasted flax that is yummy low carb low cal and does not need to be ground. It is filling and loaded with fiber. I also allow myself to always have a portion controlled treat every day and never let myself feel deprived. I keep a blog on health and fitness at http://www.flaxchick.com and am always scouring the web for health and fitness articles and coupons.. The code fit10 gives you 10% off on fitflax.
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Friday 01 May
By Ask4Jennifer
congrats on your weight loss keep it up Thanks for the tip and coupon code we love discounts, thanks for sharing.
It's great to have a variety of friendships each one brings a different light to the table and they make you a better person, just make sure you share something positive with them as well.
Friday 01 May
By Jen!
You also need to get rid of the "eating" friend and get some "healthy" friends. Before I dropped serious poundage, I had the friends that were always up for getting a pizza or sitting around watching tv and having oreos(double stuffed!) and ice cream.
I have not dropped those friends, but I now shop or see movies with them and do activities that don't depend on eating like piggies.
I also have some new friends that I run with or take a walk with. I lost over 80 pounds and changed my lifestyle. I have greek yogurt with fitflax every morning Fitflax http://www.fitflax.com is a golden roasted flax that is yummy low carb low cal and does not need to be ground. It is filling and loaded with fiber. I also allow myself to always have a portion controlled treat every day and never let myself feel deprived. I keep a blog on health and fitness at http://www.flaxchick.com and am always scouring the web for health and fitness articles and coupons.. The code fit10 gives you 10% off on fitflax.
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Friday 01 May
By wedamc
some of you should he glad you have friends. I have lived in the state and put 10 years of work till I got sick, I don't have any friends here I don't know anyone on by block and don't get a to go out anywhere so I feel some people have it much better then I do. Being a lone is the wosrt thing for a person to have to go through. I really hate being by my self every day and night.I do a lot of crying only because I would be nice to have a few friends but to bad to sad for me. I have tryed but nop they stay to themselfs.
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Friday 01 May
By jak
wedamc,
I feel for you. I live 900 miles from my family and was just layed off from work. I too have the same situation. But it has opened my eyes to I am my bff.
I know everyone needs someone to talk with. When I do I go shopping or to the flea market or like now respond online to someone. You may try joining online group with people who have the same interests. A garden group in your home town? I did and I do get some satisfaction from that. Good luck to you.
Friday 01 May
By lin
There is no need to try to have friends. Just be yourself. I'm sure you are intelligent, sensitive, and friendly. Friendship is not something you work at. It's who you are. The "You" God created. Do volunteer work. Be kind to an elderly person who probably has lost loved ones. If you belong to a church or synagogue or Mosque, etc., ask your pastor, rabbi, or other religious leader to show you what needs to be done.
Always enjoy life. And show it with your beautiful smile. You are not alone. This world is a much better place because of you being here. People who are loved, first loved others. It's a giving thing.
I hope I have given you something to think about. You are a WONDERFUL, beautiful person.
Friday 01 May
By dk
Hi wedamc,
I felt compelled to answer your letter. You sounded so lonely and almost hopeless regarding friendship. At one time I felt the same way. I had put so much time into work and found myself alone a lot. You mentioned that you got sick and you're home most of the times. A few suggestions. I don't know if you're confined to the house, but if you are you could host a meet the neighbors party. Covered dish. That way you can meet some of your neighbors/ potential new friends. If you're mobile, join a social organization, book club, cooking class, look on line see what's going on. If you're confined to the house go on line and investigate what options are available in your area. Some cities have transport services that will take you wherever you want to go. But whatever you do don't suffer in silence or get into the pity party thing. Not everyone will 'keep to themselves" reach out.
Friday 01 May
By Maryann P.
Hi! My name is Maryann.
I'm gonna jump the gun and assume you're in New York (City or the surrounding boroughs?), as I'm in Brooklyn and reading this article here. I'm a native to Brooklyn, recently relocated back to the area after a hellish attempt at independent life in Miami.
All of my good friends, my best friends are in the other boroughs. I'm not doing too well right now, but if you're looking for a local buddy, someone to hang out with or just shoot the breeze, why don't we try each other? I've only just started learning how to come out of my own introversion. And it's really hard being in a new place without at least one good friend.
Feel free to reply to my email address and if you're interested, we can go from there. New York is unique and great, and I guess being a native from my circumstances, it totally clouded my view of the real spirit and soul of New York, city and state. All the best, either way. --Maryann [mpeele121686@yahoo.com]
Sunday 03 May
By dave
I can relate to that. I moved from the place I was born after forty five years much harder to make friends now than it used to be. With all the online stuff going on today no one talks anymore
Friday 01 May
By kris
lin-
that was a very beautiful thing you said. And all true!
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Friday 01 May
By scoutdaniels
Making friends is a lot harder than it sounds; I belong to an online messageboard (for the past year) and recently returned from a trip to NYC to meet with dozens of other members and still I was unable to make any lasting connections. I retunred home feeling discouraged and depressed , it's my extreme shyness.
I regret so much not trying harder to keep in contact with my childhood friends.
All I can do now is pray that I meet one good person that would willingly welcome me into their circle of friends.
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Friday 01 May
By TedDgirl83
If any of you ever need someone to talk to... I'm here!!! I live in TX but I am always available to chat...
A stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet... or something like that right? HUGS
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Friday 01 May
By Bonnie
Friends should simply be...friends.
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Friday 01 May
By ESQLEACH
SO LET ME GET THIS STRAIGHT I NEED TO DATE A MALE DOG WHO LIKES TO FLOSS HIS TEETH WITH CAT TAILS.
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Friday 01 May
By esqleach
NOW LET ME GET THIS STRAIGHT, I NEED TO DATE A MALE DOG, WHO LIKES TO FLOSS HIS TEETH WITH CAT TAILS.
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Friday 01 May
By Cmam515
I don't have any friends, I mean all my friends are guys but that is only cool sometimes, i would like to find a genuine girl friend if possible. Where have all the friends gone?
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Friday 01 May
By jimmy_1990
This looks like a really cool article and I was wondering if you could do one like this for us guys! I already have friends but they tend to be really flaky and they never have any money to do anything >_<
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Sunday 03 May
By Akenanubis
As the adventurous sort who is always full of the good yarns and fun schemes that keeps life interesting and out of the malls, what is my motivation for including a bored wallflower who can't keep up with the action and wants to use me for entertainment and a dip in the cup of life she is afraid to grab for herself? Help me out. Just curious here.
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Sunday 03 May
By Maria
I just want to comment on having a bff. I thought I had a bff. She and I were friends for 37 years. We were there for each other through thick and thin and now she treats me like garbage. She ended the friendship last year over a misunderstanding. I was deeply hurt until I took charge. I joined a new church, made new friends, I have a great job and now I am beginning to see things differently. I still miss our friendship and I always will but a new page has turned in both our lives and I let go of the anger and I feel so much better.
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Sunday 03 May
By Kimbirly
I think every woman needs that gay friend - to make them laugh and to see the glaringly obvious trauma-drama in every day situations. There's something really cool and freeing about hanging out with a homosexual man, it really opens a girl up, free of sexual / role pressure and yet get a guy's perspective. My gay friend is priceless during times of a crisis. He always makes me laugh.
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