Most women who've been dating or in a relationship lately can attest to the male fascination with anal sex. While the no-no factor has always been part of the act's allure, the popularization of porn has made back-door booty increasingly mainstream. While plenty of guys are curious about what brown can do for them, there's a huge range of ways they actually bring it up. From the guy who "casually" asks mid-sex to the one who negotiates with his wife for months over how, when and in exchange for what it'll take place, men's initiation tactics can be truly entertaining.
Click here to read how three guys made the request ... and whether it worked.
The Giggling Schoolgirl
"One guy I dated for a few months kept making fun of it," says Katie from Boston. "But he would keep bringing it up. It's like he was trying to use some weird reverse psychology on me or something. Finally I just had to come out and say, 'Let's just do it already so we can stop talking about it!'"
Did it work? Yep. Katie falls into the "I'll do it, but I don't love it" category, a sentiment we heard from a lot of our friends who've given anal a go. "It usually requires lots of alcohol and a fair amount of begging," she says.
The "Whoops!"
"I was in a long-term relationship with my college boyfriend who was pretty perfect for me in every way, except in the bedroom. He kept asking for anal and I kept telling him no. One day we were doing it, and he 'accidentally' put it in the wrong hole.' That was the end for me."
Did it work? "Let's just say I am more like Carol Brady on the sexual-adventuress scale, and I realized he was looking for Jenna Jameson," admits Amy of Chicago. Though to be fair, having someone try to sneak in through the exit door with no warning (or lube!!) is a turn-off regardless of whether you're into it under normal circumstances.
The Gamble
"I had a guy make a bet with me once. I lost, so he got anal," says Debi of San Francisco.
Did it work? "I never though I would love it as much as I do," she writes adding a "yes" emoticon. "My friends make fun of me and say I am the one girl that makes it hard for the rest of them -- the girl that gives guys the encouragement to continue on with the bum brigade."
We'd also bet that Debi's unique gambling ways have increased her invitations to poker nights.
Ready to Try?
No matter how it gets brought up, there are two basic rules for bumsex: Go slow, and use lots of lube. Check out Babeland's list of tips for making it fun and safe.
Tell us! Have you ever had a guy try to approach your final frontier? How'd he go about it -- and did it work?












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Sunday 19 July
By Karla
I love anal sex...My boyfriend loves my big booty, and he loves the fact that I love getting dick in it. The lube is extremely important. I love it when he lubes me up, because he will massage his cock with the lube first..and then he will lube my bootyhole really good, and fingerfuck me first before he even brings his dickhead to the entrance. I found that the entry is easier and more desireable when i hold a vibrator on my clit while he attempts to enter me. Once his dick is inside of me good, and I'm juicy and stretched open for more of him....IT IS INCREDIBLE. Tip: for an insane orgasm...Keep the vibrator on your clit the entire time he is sliding his cock in and out of your wet,hungry bootyhole.....this intense combination will produce a mind tingling orgasm..and trust me, you'll be begging for more and more...you'll get to the point where you beg for it everytime.
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Wednesday 22 July
By me
Anal sex is completely pointless for women. Our g-spot isnt down there, nothings down there. Its just wasting what could be a perfectly enjoyable time having his dick somewhere more enjoyable.
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Wednesday 05 August
By wut
That's simply not true. The anus is packed full of nerves, which means stimulating it can, to some, feel good. :|
Friday 24 July
By Sex Kitten
It's not just dudes that are fascinated by it...
My boyfriend actually was never fond of the idea until I shoved it in...
Now he loves it....As much as I do.
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Saturday 25 July
By Tommy
I am a guy, I have done it but it is not my favorite. I would much rather have a nice wet vagina anytime. That is much more yummy. I am single again and writing this makes me miss sex,lol.
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Friday 07 August
By No likey but he's happy
I let my otherwise very shy boyfriend try after 2 years of dating. Sometimes it's not so bad and I enjoy it. However, if you aren't lubed up it sucks!!!!! Now I keep it as a "I got you" thing lol
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Friday 14 August
By iamkatntex
Hello, Well.... lets see here ... "getting BEHIND" our truth of the matter: My husband never brought up the subject. For a few years as we had for play and during sex, he would do some light anal stemulation stuff. Simple massages just around the perimiter of the forbindin spot. It became ... a very relaxing enjoyable thing for me. It became a ver nice a ZONE if you will.
One rainy day we were just half napping / half foreplaying... withought thinking I started doing him the same way. Just fiddling with the edges of the "spot. I could feel him breath deeper, his skin became warmer... his body language said to me ... keep that going ! I was on to something new here... scaringly exciting... I persuded on with some lotion. One minute I could honestly say that giving him anal stem never crossed my mind. The next thing I knew... his legs spread a little, his butt pointed up a little... I slipped my finger slowly in....to my bewilderment ... his breathing got deeper, he started pushing back with my rythem... It was very apparent that he was loving this. Seeing him in the state was a deep encounter for us both. This butt massage continude to his mindless orgazm. I took him to that " outer space " state of orgazm.
So This story is kinda reverse to what one would think in regards to the topic. Butt... it works both ways, and yes .. we both do it now. it such a wonderfull extention of our passion for each other.
Kat
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Sunday 16 August
By Ivy
um... thats an exit only
that area is NOT meant to be penetrated
of course women dont like it, IT HURTS
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Saturday 22 August
By Gary
I am a 54 y/o man who has enjoyed the giving end of anal sex very many times, and always with a willing lady. The first time was with my high school girlfriend, and it was so awesome that I was immediately hooked. She was incredible with it and we both enjoyed it time and time again. I loved going down on her before we started, and while the olfactory sensation is different for each lady, I have never found one that was unpleasant. The tightness of the anus is what really makes it for me. I enjoy bringing the lady to orgasm orally first, then performing analingus to prepare her for the ensuing cock. I have always been amazed at how warm, amooth and tight anal sex is, and I have never had a "messy" situation. It is a fantastic form of sex and I have never had to "force" myself on anyone. No means no, but yes means "Hell, yes".
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Saturday 22 August
By lilyredstockings
That's right Gary. But for me, Yes means F**K Yes!
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Tuesday 26 January
By skinz
" Anal Loving Women " Thank,s for not sharing your thoughts with your girlfriends, Thanks for your thoughts and feelings on Anal ! It,s sooo pleasing I,m not A Lone ! ! !
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Saturday 06 March
By Stormey
If my man ever asked me to do something so disgusting it would be the end of our relationship. Sex is not supposed to painful and you all are idiots.
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Sunday 05 December
By Cuzitsthere
anal sex is a great way to get hepatitis.....hiv, and other std's. If you think a condom prevents all std's. Think again. There is other skin on skin contact going on. Nothing like hepatitis......ask Pam Anderson
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Thursday 10 February
By Ginger
I like that term "Fifth Base," butt this sure as heck is not "the final frontier. As a 55 year old woman who has been in an adventurous marriage for 25 years, let me weigh in. The perineal muscles around the vagina & anus are pretty much a "figure 8." So if the lady has an orgasm, then the whole area relaxes and can be addressed. A Cosmopolitan or two can help, and don't we all really enjoy being seduced? With patience and lube, and a great friend-the double penetration can be incredible for all three. No need to do a half-assed job:)
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