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Yesterday we talked about moms giving their daughters the sex talk. But what about boys? In a world that often stereotypes males as sex-obsessed, irresponsible goofs (think "American Pie" or "Knocked Up"), it's no surprise that many parents don't bother to talk to their sons about having sex for the first time.
And on top of their own issues with sex, what about teaching boys to respect women? With dating-violence stories like Chris Brown and Rihanna in the news, should sex talks for boys include touchy issues like rape and physical abuse?
According to psychologist Dr. Michael Thompson, parents should explain that people often still see males as aggressors and girls as victims. However, treating people with common courtesy will earn them respect. Moms and dads are also advised to talk about respect in their own families and how they'd want their moms or sisters to be treated.
What do you think all boys should learn about sex and dating?
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Wednesday 15 April
By Annie
I think boys need to learn that having sex does not equate with being manly. They face a lot of pressure from eachother to brag about how many girls they've been with (and most lie). I think they need to be taught that having sex with as many random dirty girls as possible is not cool in the eyes of women. They also need to learn that women should be respected and not treated as if they are objects. Teaching them this concept will avoid problems like rape and violence and will help them cultivate healthy relationships with women, both emotionally and sexually.
I think men have ridiculous expectations of their sexual performance. I don't know how you'd go about talking about this with your kid (I don't think I'd want to), but because they may not perform as well as they think they should be able to (based on media and friends' stories), they assume it's the woman's fault if the sex isn't so great so they move on, cheat or whatever. I'm sure not all guys do that, but my husband gets upset if he can't perform as well as he'd like and he likes to blame me so he doesn't feel as embarassed. He can be a dope. But he seems to think he's the only one with a problem and that sex should be something it just isn't. Even good sex isn't quite what movies like to make it out to be.
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Monday 20 April
By mintj
I definitely think boys need some of the same lessons as girls...
Like the questions, Dr. Laura asked on Oprah... they both need that...
Boys are also need to know the difference between fantasy and reality sexually...
They need to know how to be respectful and also how to involve your partner...
Certainly, that no means no...
Boys need to understand the partnership that sex involves and that women have the right to sexual expression as well...
Instead of assuming they know everything, we should talk to them just as explicitly as we talk to girls...
Boys tend to act like they know more than they do...
Talk about what to do if the condom breaks, not to depend on the girl for contraceptives, where to go and when to do it...
STDs, etc...
I mean sex it's not just about males... it takes two and two people want to feel pleasure from each other and give each other the gift of sexual expression...
Sex is another way to express yourself... as a women or a man...
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