According to a new survey by O magazine and Seventeen, teen girls that get the "the talk" are more likely to practice safe sex and are half as likely to get pregnant. There's some disconnect on what that talk should actually entail, however, since while 90 percent of mothers said they have had the sex talk with their daughters, only 51 percent of daughters agreed.
We're pretty sure the only requirement for having a sex talk with your mother is that it be excruciatingly awkward.
Click here to read how some of our parents explained the birds and the bees -- and to share your story.
Emily, contributing editor: The thesis of our sex talk could be boiled down to "don't get pregnant." It was pretty understood from church that premarital sex was evil, but when I got my period for the first time, my mother sat me down and told me that I had to be really careful from now on, because my body could "make babies now." I remember feeling acutely uncomfortable and never really being that careful.
Julieanne, photo editor: My mom gave me "the talk" when I was 6, because I was starting to hear some pretty crazy ideas about how babies were made on the playground. To explain the actual act, she used a rather mortifying hand gesture (picture the index finger rapidly swabbing the "OK" signal), which was gross enough to put me off sex for a good four years or so.
And one editor got her mom to spill the beans on the infamous occasion:
Erin's mom: We had the "reproductive" talk. I remember it was after I came home from the hospital. You wanted to get out of there so fast. No real "sex" talks. I remember this like it was yesterday. Your sister just sat there, you wiggled around because you were SO uncomfortable. No questions, didn't last very long. I initiated this conversation.
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According to a new survey by O magazine and Seventeen, teen girls that get the "the talk" are more likely to practice safe sex and are half as likely to get pregnant. There's some disconnect on what that talk should actually entail, however, since while 90 percent of mothers said they have had the sex talk with their daughters, only 51 percent of daughters agreed. 








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Monday 13 April
By Erin Scottberg
Now that my mom recalled this story, I do kinda remember it. She had pamphlets. Oh lordy...
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Monday 13 April
By Erin
As a teen I can't think of anything worse than pamphlets, very sterile but a good tool.
Monday 13 April
By April
I don't know that I ever had a sex talk.
I learned all about that stuff in 4-H. I did what was called "Horse Bowl" which is kind of like Academic Bowl, but with exclusively horsey questions. One whole category was devoted to horse reproduction questions, so we were intimately acquainted with the whole process. I was 8 years old, REALLY good at Horse Bowl, and would buzz in and answer questions with answers about x & y chromosomes, infundibua, and even just "Penis."
Later, when I was I was actually having real sex, I had some little exchange where I told my mom something to the tune of "Hey, I think it would be smart for me to get Birth Control Pills" and she said "OK." That was all.
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Monday 13 April
By Erin
My mom tried to have the sex talk with me....When i was 17 a day before going to college. What an idiot. It was brutally uncomforatble, "Oh you might come back to your dorm room with some guy, make sure you always use a condom, at your age it's okay to have sex, but be careful". I thought she was am idiot, after a abstanence only education at my school I kinda thought she was cool, at my school girls had sex, most of them ended up with babies because they didn't know about condoms or how to use them. Boys were not intereseted in me, when I met my boyfriend my sexual drive was in overload, i masturbated regularly since the age of 13. I was in no hurry to "get laid" But when I met him I knew he was the one, my mother had always told me to wait till I thought i really liked the guy. It was amazing, His parents also had the same sex talk. We used condoms, I also had the courage to purchase condoms and whipped cream for my first time, something for foreplay. What i'm also driving at is parents should not be surprised that by the time of college girls know alot, we even learn from each others mistakes and the talk at 17 is far too late for many girls, I would watch sex shows when i was 15 so i knew alot and found human sexuality interesting. I never asked my parents for anything, when I wanted birth control I got it my self, made the doctors appointment by myself and went inbetween classes. Girls need to be taught o be responsible, if your going to have sex use a condom, always and a back-up method such as an oral contraceptive or an internal device.
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Monday 13 April
By Brooke
My mom never gave me the sex talk. She just figured since my school had a yearly class from fifth to tenth grade... I'd get the info that way. However, a week before my wedding, my maid of honor's mother decided she needed to have "the talk" with me!
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Tuesday 14 April
By Devynn
i got "the talk" when i was six. don't remember why, just that mom thought it was time. she got me some books from the library and we spent an afternoon talking about it. what's funny, is that she bribed me there with the promise i could get a few of my own books. heh. i then told my brother. he's 18mons younger than me so he was about 4 or 5. poor kid didn't know what to do, so he "told" on me and said i was saying "nasty things." mom cooly reprimanded by saying that didn't need to tell everyone what i knew and told my brother that i wasn't being "nasty." pretty funny when i think of it now, at 28. :p when i got my period, we went over "the talk" again. and we had several "talks" since then. esp when i got into public school. sex ed classes were offered and mom made sure me and my brother both took them. she figured that getting info from the proper sources (educated teachers and the school nurse) was better than anything she (not a teacher or medical person) could come up with. if we had questions, we could come to her and we did. by educating us as best she could, i think it helped me and my brother make informed decisions about sex, relationships and birth control. my brother was with his gf for six years before she had their kids and i was also with my husband for six years AND married for a year before me and my husband decided to have a child. in my brother's case they were both surprises, but everyone figured that since he is in a committed relationship, things would be ok and they are. i think it's best to educate the kids as best you can and pray for the best. they're bound to make better decisions when they have ALL the info they need, than not.
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Wednesday 15 April
By Erin Scottberg
Sounds like you and your mom had a really healthy relationship -- I'm sure your children will appreciate it when you treat them with the same respect! thanks for sharing!
Sunday 10 May
By Cristina
I can remember my mother explaining what sex was as early as third grade (when I started puberty), but I was 11 years old when my mom had the official "talk" with me. I had been out at the movies with my best friend Katherine. My mother was picking us up and decided to get us some ice cream before dropping Katherine off and bringing me home ...so we were all "YAY!.. ICE CREAM!!!" .....but apparently my mom thought that the car ride to Carvel was the perfect time to talk to me and my friend about sex. She started off by saying " You guys are getting older. You're going to start dating boys and when you start dating boys you're going to have certain feelings for these boys...." and I totally freaked out. I was covering my ears and going "LA LA LA. I can't hear you!!! LA LA" but the woman would not shut up. She went on to tell us that when we start having sex we need to use birth control and condoms and that we shouldn't trust the boy to buy condoms so we need to make sure we always have some in our purse, and if we're too afraid to buy them ourselves, all we had to do was ask her and she would get us whatever we needed.
I was mortified. Talk about awkward... It was sooooooo not the right time and place.
Neither of us ever did go to her for any sex advice.
My mom had the same talk with me millions of times throughout high school and it was always embarrasing. I never really felt like I needed her to have "the talk" with me. I felt like I was well informed and that I had good judgement (yeah..I was a bratty little know-it-all). It was so humiliating.. I hated that she was so open about sex when it was something that I felt should be kept a secret... ESPECIALLY from my parents. But now that I'm in my 20's and I'm working on a degree in social work, one of my goals for the future is to work with teenagers in order to teach them about sex and how to keep safe (among other things) because in high school there's so many kids who are so uninformed and they're too afraid to talk to their parents and schools don't teach as much as they should about protection and birth control.
So I guess what I'm saying is even though at the time, the talk made me want to shoot myself, everything worked out well in the long run... and I guess pretty soon I'll be handing out condoms and torturing dozens of teenagers with the talk just like my mom did to me! :D
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