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"Tool Academy" is over, so we had to find something to fill the hole in our hearts ... and TV-watching schedule. Thankfully, VH1 introduced us to matchmaker Steve Ward, the host and head butt-kicker of "Tough Love," a new reality show that aims to turn undateable, unstable women into irresistible man magnets. Consider our reality-television-sadness hole filled.

Lemondrop caught up with Steve and his matchmaking mama JoAnn last week, and got the lowdown on his relationship rules.

In these tough economic times, is "going Dutch" on the first date acceptable?

Steve: We suggest going Dutch on the first date. Have a glass of wine, have a light appetizer to see if the chemistry is there. If it's there, then the second date can be a little more of an investment.

JoAnn: People realize that they're just getting to know each other. People know what's going on with the economy. It's not a surprise or a secret. Later, when you're in love, you're connected and know what's going on with finances. It's more acceptable to split the bill or have the woman leave the tip or pay for parking.

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Do money problems affect power balance in the dating?

Steve: There is a dichotomy. When men conduct themselves and make the woman feel like she's a priority, the money is not as much of an issue. You do have to deal with that very delicately. Keep it casual on the first date. Maybe you can go to a museum, an aquarium, a walk through the park on the second date. It's still a thoughtful way to date someone and connect.

People are realizing that spending time with someone is sometimes more important than spending money.

JoAnn: When the economy gets better people will think, "When I didn't have the money, I still had a good time. I don't need to spend $300 for dinner, I can go have a bowl of spaghetti and enjoy my date's company."

Steve: No matter what your situation is in this economy, try to think of a positive spin. For every dark cloud there is a silver lining. You might not be in the best situation right at this moment but you must give off the impression that your stock is on the rise. People will be attracted to that.

What's the one piece of advice you'd give women about first-date etiquette?

Steve: Women need to be accommodating and appreciative. Make the most of it. If he takes you to a steakhouse and you're a vegetarian, figure out what you can eat and don't make a big stink about it. Be positive and upbeat. Gender roles are still very important.

JoAnn: Ideally, the man feels she's easygoing, not difficult, pleasant. It's important to provide positivity.

Steve: Don't bring up anything negative. Especially now, nobody wants to start a relationship with a Debbie Downer. If your food comes out cold, just deal with it. Stay positive, that's what people want to surround themselves with anyway. It grows on you.

Sickness spreads but so does positivity. If someone comes in feeling great, it spreads around. People want to be around other positive people.

And check out Steve in action on last night's episode of "Tough Love."