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We were combing through AOL Personals today (for work, we swear) when we were enlightened by this piece on sex positions for physically mismatched couples -- tall and short; skinny and not-so-skinny; and more. The most common pairing we hear about is pocket-size girls getting it on with basketball-tall men. The story recommends something akin to Cosmo's Amazing Butterfly, where the woman lies on her back on an elevated surface (like a table) while he stands in a fixed position.
The piece also has advice for how to deal if one of you is overweight, though we think Dr. Sadie Allison has already said it best -- the sexologist recommends doggy-style for overweight men with the line, "If you've got a gut, rest it on her butt."
Our question -- do short girls actually need specific sex positions? In our experience, once things start to get tangled, anatomy tends to line up without too much fuss.
Have you ever dated a guy whose height or weight made having sex difficult? What positions worked best for you, and what'd you have to give up altogether?
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Tuesday 24 March
By Becca
I'm about 4'11''.
I dated a guy for awhile who was around 6'4''. While holding hands was awkward at best or looked like a parent pulling a toddler behind him, intimacy was not an issue.
For an act as natural as it gets, maybe some positions work better for some couples. But since sex isn't so black and white, I don't think you can say short people need to do it one way versus larger people have to do it another. There are other factors that go into how you are intimate (emotional, imaginative, trust) that ultimately influence what positions you're capable of doing or even want to do.
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Wednesday 25 March
By sara
i'm 4'11, and my current boyfriend is 6'3. dancing i would say is a problem, but intimacy sure isn't.
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Wednesday 25 March
By nee
wrong...
im 4'11...
i need NO help...
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Thursday 26 March
By Jen
I'm 5'2" and my boyfriend is 6'2." This isn't as big of a gap as some of the other comments but people always think our height difference is an obstacle, so I guess I fall into this category. Intimacy has never been a problem for my boyfriend and I even with our differing heights.
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Thursday 26 March
By baby
i'm 5'2 by man is 6'8. we have no problems what so ever i have never been happier and i think it makes it much more interesting because we can try new things all the time.
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Thursday 26 March
By Imaj
i'm 5' even and my boyfriend is 6'7, while kissing him is occasionally tricky sex is never a problem, infact we've been able to do things he hasn't been able to do with taller girls.
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Thursday 26 March
By TL
I am 5ft 2 and my boyfriend is 6ft 3 and I would say the only obstacle is doing it standing up...damn near impossible but we have made a few heartfelt attempts which seems to satisfy one anothers curiousity.
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Friday 27 March
By Scott
I'm 6'2" tall, and my last girlfriend was 3'10" tall. The height difference really wasn't a problem, but she was so tiny and so narrow that she couldn't straddle me. It meant that there were positions that we couldn't do, but it meant that there were a lot that I could do with her that I couldn't do with other people. It wasn't ever a problem. Kissing wasn't even a problem, as I could just pick her up to kiss her. :)
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Friday 27 March
By jason
sad people..
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Thursday 23 April
By Danielle
I am 5'2". My ex boyfriend is 6'6". I agree with the fact that it did look a bit awkward when we would hold hands while walking, or doing anything next to each other for that matter, but when it came to sex sometimes it just got annoying. Missionary worked out easily enough, but with positions like on furniture or bent over a bed, it was difficult. I ended up sometimes having to stand on something or leaving my heels on (which I never minded). Otherwise, there wasn't really a problem. It's a price I would gladly pay since I love tall dudes.
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Sunday 29 March
By k
i'm a short girl (5 feet) and i've been with some really tall guys. it's never been a problem except that if you like to be on top and you have little legs, sometimes your legs or hips might cramp up if the guy has wide hips. if that becomes a problem i suggest putting your legs up with your knees bent and your feet next to the guys head or on his chest. a lot of guys seem to like that and it'll keep your hips from hurting. some guys really seem to enjoy this position. just don't put all your weight on his chest and be careful not to kick him!
woman on top also works well if the guy is heavy since it gives him a chance to rest and it leaves both of you with your hands free to roam around...
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Monday 30 March
By diane
I am five foot 1 and a half and no tall guys were never an issue ,
Hight has nothing to do with sex but standing up sex can be a challenge
weight can be a challenge when two people weigh a lot.
I don't mind trying to find lots of possitions that work for me and my significat other.
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Wednesday 01 April
By Kat
I'm 5ft and my current guy is 6'8. We always thought sex was going to be an issue when we first started dating. We eventually found out that it wasn't as awkward as we thought. Sometimes I do get squished while he's on top, but it's nothing major. The height difference isn't a big deal
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Wednesday 01 April
By lili
my boyfriend is 511 and i'm 5 feet. the normal positions work out just fine. But i always wanted to do it standing up and... it really didn't work out well at all.
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Saturday 04 April
By Margaret
I'm 4'11" and my boyfriend is 6", nothing's ever not worked. I agree that having sex while standing up can be tricky, but it can be done if your boyfriend bends his knees and lowers himself down until he's at the right height. Or if he's strong enough, he can hoist you up while he stands lol
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Monday 06 April
By Paige
The only issue I have is that I am 5'3 and my girlfriend is 5'7. Since we're lesbian, sometimes the length of my arm doesn't permit certain positions.
Other than that, It's great, although I'd love to be able to kiss her during said situation, but again, arm length :]
The only other issue I had was an ex-girlfriend of mine that was substantially heavier than me. The only problem that brought on was in a certain position, it turned into a crabwalk clusterfcuk if you know what I'm saying.
But height, No issue.
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Saturday 26 June
By Bob
Nice
Monday 06 April
By Phil
I'm 6'4" 190lbs and my girlfriend is 5' even 75lbs. I weigh more than two times than her. Sex was a small issue at first, but we've really overcome it and she really enjoys it now. She was nervous about being with a big guy (in all respects), but humans are adaptable creatures, especially ladies down there.
I found once she got used to being with me and just comfortable overall, she just relaxes and has fun. Of course, taking it slow is important for a smaller woman. I also do some Yoga and stuff, so I'm more flexible than most guys, that probably helps too.
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Tuesday 07 April
By 5'6"
The best is when you're the same height and really strong and fit. It's unbelievable.
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Wednesday 08 April
By Joan from Texas.
I'm 3'2" my boy friend is 7'4" tall. We both work in freak show and get paid to things ordinary couples couldn't even dream of doing! Height difference is not a problem it's an advantage.
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