Over a month after his alleged beating of (ex-?)girlfriend Rihanna, Chris Brown is still beloved by many of his teenage fans. This adoring base includes girls who think Rihanna instigated or earned her smackdown. The NYT explores fans' loyalty to Brown in a piece today in which kids seem to argue: "If Rihanna forgave him, why shouldn't I?"The article also points out that there's extra pressure in the black community to forgive, lest another black male be written off as a criminal. A Harvard African-American studies professor told the Times that girls have been taught that "what matters is that we don't destroy boys."
Not Just Chris Brown
What's missing from much of the media coverage about the Rihanna-Chris Brown case is an acknowledgment that this occurs all the time -- with Oscar nominees as well as Kids' Choice Award ones.
Click here to read who else has been in Brown's boat.
Experienced brawler Josh Brolin got popped for spousal battery, yet there was no outcry at Diane Lane for sticking by his side at the Oscars. Terrence Howard was arrested in 2001 for punching his estranged wife in the face. (After Brown's arrest, Howard had to apologize for saying, "It's just life, man ... Rihanna knows he loves her.")
Charlie Sheen, one of the highest-paid actors on TV, was accused of abuse by his ex-wife Denise Richards. He is also reported to have "accidentally" shot ex-fiancé Kelly Preston. Shot her. But nobody (except maybe critics) seems outraged that "Two and a Half Men" is picked up for another season.
Our question: Why do we expect teenagers, what with their underdeveloped prefrontal lobes and all, to hold Chris Brown accountable when, as a society, we don't blink at other celebrity perpetrators of violence against women?
Tell us! Do you think teenagers are going too easy on Chris Brown?
Click here to read a Lemondrop blogger's first-person account about abusive relationships.












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Tuesday 21 April
By StephNY
I find the idea that a story about a REAL human being BEATING another REAL human being has gotten tangled up in a discussion of a NOVEL about Werewolves and Vampires.
OK, I'll accept that stories speak to our emotions and beliefs, but I hope everyone here understands that real life is about a thousand times more complex than any novel.
I'm not even passing judgement on anyone, the celebrities or the commenters, but I'm disturbed at how we translate what's horrible and intense into the understandable but mundane.
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Tuesday 21 April
By StephNY
^I find the idea that a story about a REAL human being BEATING another REAL human being has gotten tangled up in a discussion of a NOVEL about Werewolves and Vampires.^ DISTURBING.
One word and my sentence loses all meaning...
Tuesday 21 April
By OmarV
How come there isn't as much talk about what Rhianna did? I'm not condoning Chris B. actions, they are definitely not the right way, but why would he fly off the handle like that? Where's the other side of this story? Did Rhianna have issues also? Was she taking it out on him? All this attention on Chris and no one seems to want to talk about the other side.
Oh, and Twilight has nothing to do with this issue. The issue has been around way before the book series came out. Parenting always comes first, the kids are YOUR responsibility.
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Friday 24 April
By Nathan
I'm 16 and a male, and I didn't care for Chris Brown to begin with, and am I surprised at what he did to Rihanna? No. But what he did was wrong, and he should be charged for assault. And I guess teens didn't care what happened to that teenage girl that got assaulted in her friends house, by like 8 girls. As far as I'm concerned, Chris Brown shouldn't be in the music industry, because his music sucks, and he needs to go to jail before he does this to a " teen that doesn't care about Dating Violence Because Society Coesn't ".
Chris, Screw you, you worthless peice of crap!!!
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Tuesday 21 April
By Apfel
Chrissy, I agree that Twilight is a terrible book in terms of addressing abuse. However, sadly, I'm afraid all of the blame can't be put on Twilight alone (though if it could, I'd certainly be happy about it).
There's something deeper at the root of this nonchalance about violence against women. Our society's obsession with celebrities coupled with the patriarchal idea that women should take whatever happens to them "because they deserved it" or because "they instigated it" is part of the problem. These issues need to be addressed in society, and if they aren't, the problem of teenagers not caring that a celebrity beats his girlfriend isn't going to change.
We are obsessed, and we forgive bad behavior not because we believe they can change, or that they believe what they did was wrong, but because we like the idea of them (not what they really are -- abusive boyfriends, etc.), and we want our idea of them to stay just the way it is.
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Monday 20 July
By Amanda
whats with people saying, you dont know them or their relationship, you werent there, etc.... theres no excuse for beating up a woman!!!! it doesnt matter if she insulted his entire family, killed his career, and smashed up his car. theres nothing in the world that makes it acceptable for a man to beat up a woman. and in the unlikely instance where the woman is hitting the man, all he should do is try to restrain her.
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