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Mary F. Pols, the author of a controversial new book called "Accidentally On Purpose" lives in Northern California with her 5-year-old son and admits that she got pregnant "accidentally on purpose" after having a one-night stand.
According to 39-year-old writer Kate Spicer, Pols is far from alone. "More than half of all conceptions are outside marriage, for a start," Spacer points out. "Couple that with the fact there has been a sharp increase in the number of children born to those in the 35-39 age group, and you get the picture." Spicer admits that she too has played a game of fertility roulette, although she insists that she's selective about her partners.
We're fundamentally against tricking a guy into fatherhood, but if a man chooses to sleep with a woman he barely knows without using birth control, does he deserve what he gets? And what if you're not necessarily trying to get pregnant, but you are open to the idea -- do you have a responsibility to tell your partner that you're rolling the conception dice?
Mar 16th 2009 By Susan Johnston
Is It OK to Use a One-Night Stand to Get Pregnant?
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Monday 16 March
By Tom Miller
This is awful. I mean you're only supposed to get accidentally on-purpose pregnant if you want them to marry you, right? Some kidding aside, I was under the impression that you always asked someone if they were on birth control before going bareback. It's a social contract.
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Tuesday 17 March
By Angel
Call me crazy but this has to be a HORRIBLE story to relay to your children when they get older. Can you imagine explaining that mommy accidently on purpose got knocked up...doesn't know who the dad is, no way of finding out .... what if the guy has a family history of genetics disease ? Is their no end to the lack of ...common sense w/ today's society ? Ug. People this dumb shouldn't be allowed to breed...be it by accident or on purpose.
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Tuesday 31 March
By Jessica.
It's not as uncommon as you might think, and guys who don't use a condom deserve whatever happens. Plus, if one did have some horrible genetic disease, why would he be concerned with boinking random girls if it was life threatening in any way? He would be in a hospital, I'm quite sure. Plus, anyone who uses "w/" for the word with and is too lazy to type two extra character obviously knows nothing about common sense. I'm also sure she at least gets the names of the guys, no one has sex with someone without at least finding out their name, even on a one night stand.
Anyway, guys who are so careless with their sperm they don't bother to ask if she's on birth control or use a condom, deserve to realize (even in that difficult way) that there are consequences to their actions.
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Wednesday 18 March
By TY
Lesbians have been doing this for years now...they cant afford artificial insemenation so she gets this unsuspecting guy that she has targeted to sleep with her. He never heres from her again and her and her lesbian lover raise the kid. Sometimes its a race to see who gets knocked up first between the two of them.
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Wednesday 25 March
By calliope
you are correct in saying that lesbians do this all the time. but does that justify it? its a huge risk and u dont know the risks or the guys history.
Thursday 26 March
By rivsh
So many kids have been and still are raised in single parent households that this article, although interesting, is simply just for shock value. Sex is great, sex is fun, and yes women get pregnant. I had one night stands with men I would never consider marrying. A few times these encounters were unprotected, but fortunately I didn't get pregnant. If I would have gotten pregnant I would raise the child on my own.
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Wednesday 25 March
By cognitogrrl
I agree with Angel that this is throwing out half of your child's genetic background, saying "Here you go, I really wanted you, so I picked a man who didn't really want me for keeps, or you, either." Not that a woman who'd do that would TELL the child the sordid truth, I would hope?
TY -- your comment stinks, and I bet you made up that dumb story and don't know a single lesbian personally. If you did, she probably wouldn't touch YOU with a 10-foot pole.
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Thursday 26 March
By theoldmeatman
Because women possess the gold they get the chance to use it as they please , UNFORTUNATELY. Not that I think many men would alter their actions if the were told up front about the intentions of who they were with, a man should be given the choice to accept the responsibilities of a lifetime if informed. Kids are a blessing for those wanting the responsibility. They are the victims otherwise. Sorry to say, candy only tastes good sometimes until you finish it. There are plenty of men who would choose to be great fathers if given the choice upfront and would provide loving, stable environments for a great child and loving mom
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Thursday 26 March
By wolfy
Isn't that just taking unfair advantage of someone? I mean, you could have passed a disease on to him(or vice versa) not to mention, it's downright disrespectful to both the man and child. I think nothing's wrong if they were unmarried and they both consented to having a child and stuff, but getting pregnant using trickery is just low, dirty, and shameful. Think of it from a man's point of view:how would he feel if he were used like that?
As a female, I find this appalling.
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Saturday 28 March
By comitrex
This is a wonderful way to ride the system, and get on welfare, and a sympathy boat, and all those other good things the rest of us , responsible and successful people can't be a part of. It's a wonderful country we live in - I welcome degeneration..hopefully I can profit from it.
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Monday 14 September
By ELIZABETH ANN MOHR(PRONOUNCED AS MOORE.IT IS A GERMAN SPELLING.)
I guess that I'd be in the same boat then.My biological mother(I AM ADOPTED NOW) was a drug addict and she got pregnant.When asked who the father was she did not know.This makes it totally unfair to me.Simply because I have a right to know who my father is.And I believe that every child has a right to know were they came from and who their parents are.While I have no sympathy for my biological mother I hate her for what she has done to me from giving me brain damage to giving me no concideration at all by continuing to drink and do drugs while she was still pregnant with me.Thus causing my brain damage.I am NOT typing this to look for sympathy but to make people aware of just how unfair a one night stand can be to a child because of two adults who just wanted to fill their nedds and NOT take into concideration of how their one nighter can damage their unborn child.
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Tuesday 04 May
By c b kinsley
i am 75, when i was about 40, my father(i thought) died , my mother told me that the man i thought was my father was not my bio. father she said she had sex with her dr. many times and he was my bio.she said she had many miscarriges in the 5 years that she was married so she got with the doctor and a few others just to have a little fun and if she got a baby well ok,,allthis happend in 1934-35,, im glad she did its been a great life...
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