Last week I wrote a post suggesting that the best way to effectively remedy sexual harassment is to quit. Within days, the post had logged over 150 comments, and garnered response from across the Web -- on sites such as Salon, Slate, Jezebel, and Examiner.I wanted to take the opportunity to address some of the concerns about my advice.
I suggested that you should turn in your resignation and then inform your employer about the harassment. Here's why: I believe that companies are only motivated to change their behavior when faced with financial implications. Once a company starts spending money on replacing its employees, behavior will change.

Responding to Criticism
Some readers reacted to the word "quit" and missed the part where I advocate reporting the perpetrator to the company.
Click here to read the rest of Laurie's response.
Others commented upon my lack of expertise in the field of Human Resources. Still others felt that my advice was misogynistic and anti-woman.
I have worked in HR for over a decade, and I hold a senior-level designation from the preeminent HR organization in America, SHRM. I have been responsible for laying off or firing more people than work at most American companies. I have worked in every environment -- from manufacturing plants to executive offices in Manhattan.
Give Yourself Power
I am not advocating that women accept harassment. I am not suggesting that you should quit before you find another job. I am not saying that Human Resources departments are incapable of managing sexual harassment investigations.
Here is what I'm saying: You are responsible for your career.
I know the economy sucks, but you can find a better place to work if your company tolerates a hostile work environment. Reporting the perpetrator or suing your company is admirable; however, many Americans can't pay for health insurance, let alone pay for legal advice.
The Truth About HR
While most HR departments are staffed with sympathetic souls, they have limited opportunities to change the culture of a company. You can report the incident to HR while you are still employed, but you run the risk of being further victimized by a process that is out of your control.
If you are mistreated at work, you should move quickly to protect your self-interests. Document the situation, find another job, and get the heck out of there. Provide your documentation to HR on your way out the door, and make yourself available if they choose to investigate.
My Bottom Line
You can't control the behavior of other people, but you are in control of your life and your own career. There is no bigger employee advocate than you. Protect your own interests and act accordingly.
Laurie Ruettimann is a writer, speaker and HR exec with Fortune 500 experience. She blogs at Punk Rock Human Resources.












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Tuesday 10 March
By Cindy J. Gibson
Laurie,
Once again, I am appalled by your advice, and your so called expertise.
You not only are clueless to fact of what is going on with Women in the workforce, you are contributing to there demise. Quitting is not, and should never be, an option. How about holding the company accountable not only for the actions of other employee's, but thier own actions in responding to such complaints. I agree that forcing the issue is not easy, and in most cases impossible to prove, but I do not agree that running from this issue is the answer. We as women need to unite against this issue, and in doing so make it clear we will not tolerate it. Not run and hide, and hope that our experience will be different elsewhere. If we never take a stand, we will never be taken seriously. Most men and HR managers, like yourself, approach this issue with little or no urgency. In most cases these people are simply dismissed and forced to deal with their problems alone. For the most part I believe lack of knowledge, and education on the subject is to blame. Most people know the term Sexual Harassment but are not clear on specifics of what actually is considered as such. Company's hand out pamphlets that state zero tolerance, but give little or no details on what can be construed as sexual harassment.
Laws are vague, company's are ill-informed, and judges are left with little support to actually convict. Change the laws, educate the people, hold company's accountable. Yes its a long road, but we need to start somewhere.
Rosa Parks would be ashamed!!!!!!
Cindy Gibson
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Thursday 12 March
By beentheredonethat
I agree with Laurie. With her being and HR executive, I'm sure Laurie has had to deal with more than her fair share of these cases. I have been through this whole situation myself, which obviously Cindy has not. Laurie is not telling us to just give up and quit and here's why. While I was working for a company 3 years ago, I was repeatedly sexually harrassed by a co-worker. I reported it to my supervisor (a man) each time. He gave the guy a slap on the wrist, so of course it continued to happen (this coming from a company who gives an hour brief on Sexual Harrassment). It got to the point where my husband called the regional office and spoke to the director. Somehow when he found out, I was mysteriously fired within a few days! Had I quit INSTEAD of putting up with this CRAP, I could have saved money for an attorney and not had "being fired" on my resume. Instead I ended up broke and without means to pay for an attorney (they all charged $200+ consult fees). Still to this day I have not been able to get hired anywhere with this on my resume. I did eventually get unemployment, but I had to go through multiple hearings because the company fought it. Bottom line: if you are being sexually harrassed, document EVERYTHING, get names and numbers of any witnesses, save money for an attorney or make arrangements with one if possible, and CONSIDER quitting, making sure in your resignation letter you specify why you are quitting. I think Cindy is clueless and needs to think before she types, and stay away from topics she does not know about.
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Friday 27 March
By Susan
If the only reason companies will change is monetary, then the obvious choice is to sue. Quitting isn't nearly as expensive as that.
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Saturday 14 March
By ALLY
I believe the HR is on employers side becasue they are working for the company as well as the complaining employees , thats why she wants u to quit instead of firing the other party that harassed the employee , that way other people will see how serious the HR is and they will not even try to harrass any one anymore and if they are not happy with the company , they can quit themselves instead of harrasing the other people and this is my opinion about this matter and ohh one more thing what if u work for a private company and they do not have an HR section , and in that case what do u do when u get harrassed ????
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Saturday 14 March
By forteluv
I too am appalled by Laurie's suggestion. I have been an HR professional far longer than Laurie and in Fortune 500 companies from manufacturing to healthcare to investment banking to higher education. I don't know what kind of HR person she is, but where I've worked, harassment of any kind is serious business, and if you get caught doing it, punishment is swift and harsh. Often, especially when it becomes a matter of "he said, she said," the company bends over backwards to ensure that the message gets across that harassment will not be tolerated under any cercumstances. I have transferred, fired, and disciplined numerous violators. I even wrote my own online sexual harassment training program and employees are required to take it every year!!! No one should have to put up with harassment and anyone who advices them to quit is a poor excuse for an HR professional!
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Sunday 15 March
By swimintoserenity
The more people in HR protest the "quit" advice, the more I believe Laurie is right.
I was terminated from a fantastic job in January after complaining to HR about the hostile work environment created by my boss. This is a man who commented on my hair, my clothes, called me "big momma," called me stupid and an asshole, and who used despicable language to describe female colleagues.
I dealt with this behavior for seven months, then filed a complaint. After that, it was clear that efforts were underway to document me out the door. So, what was his punishment? None, that I could tell. He keeps the great title, the great salary, the great office, the great bonuses. Me? I am unemployed in the worst job market in centuries. Some clue that HR takes the matter of harassment seriously.
Unfortunately, quitting would not have helped me. It would have meant being ineligible for unemployment insurance benefits. The employer would have loved it, since quitting would have saved them from having to do anything. At least by filing a complaint, they were forced to go on the record about the matter, even if it meant I lost my job in the end. Frankly, I think many employers count on employees going away quietly.
Bottom line is that HR is not an employee's friend when it comes to harassment. Anyone who works in HR can deceive themselves into thinking they are an employee's advocate until they have an employee knock on their door and tell them the kinds of things I was dealing with. At that point, the HR person goes and tells his or her boss ... and they tell the legal department ... and it's the beginning of the end.
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Sunday 15 March
By The Von
Honestly....Laurie...I think you are a retarded, terrible example of a modern woman. To say that a woman should quit her job over this type of shit. Do you know how hard it is to find decent jobs nowadays? And to tell them to quit....my god, your basically saying give up. Yea yea, you say "report the harasser" but you still imply that a woman should quit her job and give in to this type of shit. Well for your information the CASCI building here does not tolerate any type of harassment. If you sexually harass someone there you are looking at a 90% of being fired. I say report the fuck and then rub it in his lecherous face. Don't quit because that ultimately means that they win. Honestly....What the hell possessed you to write this? You really pissed off a lot of your fellow females. Never let men (or women) think they can do whatever they please in the workplace or anywhere else when it comes to sexual harassment, EVER.
LAURIE WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?
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Sunday 15 March
By fightn'emoff
Documenting everything yourself is OK because the company is doing it too. What is more important is witnesses like managers whose first priority is protecting their asses when protecting yours. If you want the harasser to suffer, then you don't quit on your company. Secondly, make it clear that you are not afraid of retaliation from the harasser or otherwise. If he chooses to be a jerk then he should be prepared to accept your legally protected wrath with the company's blessing. Make a statement by choosing to sue him, not your company.
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Sunday 15 March
By Shawn
Delete the word "sexually" and the advice should ALWAYS be the same: RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!
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Friday 27 March
By Mary Brown
Laurie:
No matter how you look at it, advising someone to quit because they're being harrassed, is a common response but nonetheless irresponsible! It reminds me of parents who tell their children to "stay away from" known pedophiles!
The attitude of "revictimize the victim" mentality is extremely pervasive in our society, and it makes my stomach turn. Since I entered the workforce at 17 years of age, I have had to make the decision to litigate against 3, unscrupulous employers, and several times I had to make the decision to walk away. I chose to litigation in 3 instances where my employer's behavior was so aggregious that I could not live with myself in peace, had I walked away.
I enjoyed a deep sense of peace and personal satisfaction, following the 3 times that I walked away. I was successful and won a financial award for each of the 3 instances that I took my employers to task.
I never brought an employer up on charges for the sake of a financial award, alone. I weighed the risks and decided to fight when my personal convictions and self respect outweighed those costs, and I handled my employer as I would handle anyone else who discriminated against me or violated my civil rights.
If you think that voicing a complaint after you've left an employer serves any purpose at all, you are grossly misinformed. You've allowed the bully to intimidate you, humiliate you, take your lunch money and send you away flat broke home with a bruised sense self esteem, to boot.
I teach my daughter (and the village of sons and daughters that I mentor) to stand for something or fall for anything! Winning is not always important. Sometimes, it's just more important to fight your enemy in such a way, that though he wins, he never wants to see your face or another face like you'rs, again!
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Saturday 28 March
By A.
I quit, then reported the harasser---without a job lined up. I am doing contract work now, but the cost of quitting in a recession year has been devastating. I wouldn't recommend quitting without another opportunity, but I felt I had no choice.
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Wednesday 08 April
By dan
this is horrible advice. everyone has the right to be treated like a human being in the workplace. anyone who advises someone to just quit...is a coward.
id rather fight..and fail..then give up.
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Tuesday 02 March
By Katie
Cindy,
You have several grammar errors in your argument. Of the most glarring, you use the wrong form of their. Here's a grammar lesson: when using there, their and they're, the first referes to a place, the second is possessive and the third is descriptive. You mean to use the second, but instead used the first.
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