We're saddened by a story about a teen who hanged herself in her bedroom after an ex-boyfriend disseminated a nude cell-phone photo of her around their Ohio community. Jessica Logan, 18, was harassed daily by other girls calling her "slut" and "whore" and throwing objects at her.
Making It Through
She finished high school last year and went on national television with her face and voice distorted to warn other girls about the potential consequences of taking naked photos of themselves, a mistake Vanessa Hudgens later made.
But two months later, after attending a funeral for another teen who had committed suicide, Jessica went home and took her own life.
A Common Mistake
An oft-cited survey says that 39 percent of teens have sent similar photos of themselves ... and 15 percent of high-school boys say they disseminate the pics after a breakup.
The "Today" show had an "Internet security expert" on hand to warn of the dangers of "sexting" and urge parents to check their kids' cell phones. But isn't the real problem old-fashioned high-school cruelty?
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Hot Bod, Cold Heart
Alex Rodriguez This skanky Yankee came under fire for getting cozy with a stripper at a Las Vegas Scores (ew), and was rumored to be cavorting with Madonna before the ink was dry on either of their divorce papers. Jerkometer rating: 7
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Mario Lopez Who knew that A.C. Slater was such a dirtbag? The buff "Dancing with the Stars" stud reportedly cheated on one lady friend with a Hooters girl, and his two-week 2004 marriage to Ali Landry ended when she learned of his bachelor party antics. Jerkometer rating: 8
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Jude Law He may be gorgeous, and nobody can resist that accent. But you know what we can resist? Sleeping with our nanny. Jude? Not so much. He and then-fiancee Sienna Miller eventually broke up, obvs. Jerkometer rating: 7
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Matt Damon In 1998, Matt Damon told Oprah Winfrey during an interview on her show that he was no longer dating Minnie Driver. According to Driver, that was the first she'd heard of their breakup. Jerkometer rating: 2 (He gets points off for good behavior since.)
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Hugh Grant In 1995, Grant was infamously pulled over by L.A. police for lewd conduct with prostitute Divine Brown. Girlfriend Liz Hurley forgave him and even appeared on his arm at the premiere of "Nine Months" days after his arrest. Jerkometer rating: 9 (extra points for dragging Leno into it)
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David Beckham What is it with married celebrities and the hired help? Although he has always denied it (and OK, so there's no proof), Becks was accused in 2004 of sleeping with then-personal assistant Rebecca Loos. Jerkometer rating: 3 (That shirtless picture inspires our goodwill, OK?)
Milk Processor's of America
Chace Crawford We know two things about the "Gossip Girl" boy: He's a total hottie, and he dumped Carrie Underwood via text. US Weekly reported in April, 2008 that the pair "mutually" parted ways via cellular phones. Jerkometer rating: 1 (hey, we've done it too)
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Charlie Sheen Among other lowlights, Sheen "accidentally" shot ex-fiancee Kelly Preston, spent thousands on madam Heidi Fleiss and symbolically took a chainsaw to his wedding portrait with Denise Richards. Ew. Jerkometer rating: What comes after infinity?
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Ethan Hawke We were sad enough when this brainy babe's artsy-smartsy marriage to Uma Thurman ended. But to then shack up and have a baby with the nanny to his kids? For shame! Jerkometer rating: 4
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Ryan Philippe Although never officially confirmed, rumors still swirl that Ryan Philippe's divorce from his all-American wife Reese Witherspoon had a little something to do with an on-set affair with actress Abbie Cornish, now his girlfriend. Hmm. Jerkometer rating: 6
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"Sexting" and online bullying may be relatively new, but girls tormenting other girls over their alleged promiscuity has been around forever.
We're glad to hear from the security expert that schools are finally being held liable for bullying (including some cyber-bullying), but we're not sure if that will be enough to keep kids from tormenting each other.
"Mean Girls" has a touching ending, but what can school officials and parents do to help real-life teens make peace? Should we blame technology ... or ourselves?
Tell us! What should parents or administrators do to teach kids about the dangers of sexting? Is it just another rite of passage?
The Most Annoying Co-Workers
Insistent Instant Messenger: No matter how much time or miscommunication could be spared by talking face-to-face, this person insists on talking virtually, via IM or email. If they're a superior and you're not online, they send you an email to ask where you are (meanwhile you're at your desk, ten feet away).
Cycle Sister: This is a person you're not particularly fond of, but for whatever cosmically twisted reason, your daily routine is synched up -- you walk into work at the same time, and from there, you see your Cycle Sister in the bathroom, on your smoke break, at the vending machine, and on the way out. Even if you do like this person alright, the sheer coincidence makes things creepy and awkward.
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The Get-a-Lifer: This person asks you out to post-work drinks on a regular basis, despite the fact that you always decline. And the one time you went to a party at their house, it ended up being the two of you playing Taboo. The Get-a-Lifer is often the same person who plans meetings at 6 p.m. on Fridays, not realizing that everyone else goes out with their friends on the weekend.
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Listserv Leech: If someone has taken this person's lunch out of the fridge, the entire staff will be notified via the staff listserv, which everyone else uses exclusively for professional communication. Alternately, this person may use the listserv to let everyone know about the lack of toilet paper in the bathroom, a party they're throwing, or to ask who took that package off their desk.
Angry Typist: The Angry Typist pounds on her keyboard with the vigor of someone hitting their ex-boyfriend. The violent clacking leads to many misunderstandings, as this person is often unaware of their problem and is not actually pissed.
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The Toilet Mouth: You're on the pot midstream (or worse) when the Toilet Mouth strikes up a conversation. This person also likes to chatter at the sink for before and after they go, giving no one in the bathroom privacy to do their business.
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Monday Manic: The coffee hasn't hit your bloodstream yet, and the Monday Manic is flittering about, imbued with an unnatural amount of energy and optimism. They're telling stories about how freaking great their weekend was and so stoked about the work they get to do that day.
Old News Hound: OMG, did you hear that Lindsay Lohan is dating a girl!? The Old News Hound is always the last to know about everything, but the first to belt out at a stale headline at full-volume to their surrounding coworkers.
Rash Revealer:This person has no shame getting on the phone with their doctor, their spouse, their aunt, or their mom to discuss a rash, a yeast infection, and any other personal bodily defect or medical issue.
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The Chit-Chat Blaster: If this person catches you in the break room or on your way out of the bathroom, you're done for a half an hour later they're still yammering away about the paint samples they're considering for the livingroom, the deli they ate at for lunch, the meeting the boss called earlier, the diet they're on. The Chit-Chat Blaster also doesn't notice you inching away, and generally lack the ability to pick up social cues.













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Friday 06 March
By lhgraphics
this is why my kids do not have cell phones
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Tuesday 10 March
By combatpainter
Yours don't but other kids do and they are the one's that take the pics and spread them around. No easy answer other than to be involved and get your kids trust. God bless.
Tuesday 10 March
By peg
I feel sad for these two young women that took their lives. I also don't believe in teens or young children having cell phones.
When that girl took her picture, Im sure she wasn't thinking of consequences. Kids usually don't at that age.
I raised three children, in the 90's and they managed to survive without a cell phone.
This is nobody's fault, it just happened. What it is, is a lesson to be learned by anyone that reads about it.
My condolences to both families..
Tuesday 10 March
By lili
Ur kids may not have cell phones, but that won't stop them. A good upbringing and a good concious is what stops them. Beware ofdigital cameras, a friends cell phone etc...If they're going to "Sext" they'll find a way. No kid is exempt. Phone or no phone. It can happen to ANY child! And for you to bury your head in the sand is the worst thing that u can do.
Tuesday 10 March
By Lisa
why does a kid need a cell phone, as long as their parents know where they are and who they're with AT ALL TIMES. Unless that is to much work for the parent. Did we as children run around with cell phones? NO!!!! Guess what, we survived. That's the problem with society today.........making the cell phone the new babysitter.
Tuesday 10 March
By Arthur Wilder
Banning them from cell phones want protect them from these type of things stupid.
Tuesday 10 March
By Dani
Cell phones aren't to blame. A generation without guidance is more the problem that our technology. Two working parents, sometimes too tired at the end of the day to understand how simple talking to their children could be & how many problems it could help avoid.
Children raised with lack of discipline. Children raised to believe they can bully other children and actually seek reasons to do so. If it wasn't a cell phone, they'd find something else, including just stories regarding the break-up. It's how it's been since before I went to high school in the 90's and it won't change until people change how they view others around them and teach their children as such.
Cell phones aren't to blame. Goes back to lack of parenting.
Life threatening allergies continue to be on the rise. Your children may have survived without cell phones, but should a child with a severe bee allergy be locked in his home spring/summer/fall to avoid bee stings that may happen outside of his mother's eye sight because the parent is BEATEN up by other parents over their teen/child having a cell phone?
I don't think the cell phone issue makes anyone a bad or good parents, btw. Just one who had to think about their lives as a whole & decide what is the best choice for their family. Do they pay $30 for a landline or $10.00 to add a line to their cell service.
Tuesday 10 March
By Sue Speese
The problem isn't having cell phones, the problem is that somewhere along the way girls think that they have to use sex and their sexuality to keep a boy's interest. Somewhere along the way, girls are thinking their only marketable commodity is their bodies.
Raising a girl to have self esteem and not think that they have to "make a boy like them" would put an end to this.
Tuesday 10 March
By Michael Ganson
I agree with Dani
Tuesday 10 March
By AnnaSerra
About the sexting Subject... This has been a growing thing to do amongst not only young people, but for adult women and men as well, people in there 30's,40's and 50's sending emails and then they get posted on sites and now secret videos too. in some cases women newly devorced, or on the rebound from a long term relationship and entering this new tech world of seduction, its fun at first, exciting when others think you still got it. Then reality sets in when people you know see the photos that no one else was going to see but him, so he says, Then you see the photos you sent him on the Internet posted on a site with your credit card info.. conveniently his face is never posted in any pictures of himself. clothed or not.. bonus when you find out he is married,lol.. Its really no joke that this happens to more people then you think, and they will never want to openly point out the injustice that has been done to them, Adult people will hide what has happened until a teen has a tragic happening, I'm talking about respectable career people here, Lawyers, doctors, CEO's wives that are bored at home.. In this world when people feel they have been exposed is when you see the media like magazines covers showing major movie stars in the nude for a cause, even good girl Jennifer Anderson and many, many more, But that's ok when they do it!!! no one is throwing things at them and calling them names, Right? Top Models in Sports Illustrated pretty much leaving nothing to the imagination...So of coarse a lot woman and some men want to be seen as sexy in pictures and have some of own fame in the spot light.. not counting on that there are people out there that only want to judge others and never look at themselves and anything they do as wrong. All people need to be taught not to feel shame of themselves, so they can stand up to the mocking traders in this world....Even if people see you naked, So What that how we are. The people that are judging should be ashamed.. Being Naked in a photo dose not DEFINE who you are in this Life!!!! Dont Let anyone define you by any action, Live a new day and DEFINE yourself...
Tuesday 10 March
By Tootie
This can happen to any kid, boy or girl...they just do not see the ramifications. It is all about today...not thinking about tomorrow and what could happen. Very poor judgement. My 16 year old daughter no longer can text or send pictures via her cell phone because of this. She can only send and recieve calls now.
This is why...she met a fellow on the internet, she was 15. She thought she "loved" this guy although never met him in person. He persistantly requested photos of her and said he loved her too. At first the photos were all ok...then he began requesting racy photos. When she did not send them he would withdraw from her emotionally...not chat with her online and ignore her. This upset her, as this was someone she "loved". She eventually broke down and sent him the pictures he requested. She took pictures of herself with her cell phone and sent them to him over the internet. He also sent her pictures of himself in various positions.
As is turns out this guy was a man of 22. A Private First Class (PFC) in the Army stationed in Iraq, where the mere posession of pornography is illegal. So, I contacted the US Army and told them what had happened. They were very concerned and asked for proof. I had printouts of their conversations and the inappropriate pics. You see, I had spyware installed on my computer. I was able to monitor my daughter via the spyware called imbigbrother. At first I felt a little guilty spying on my daughter...but after what happened with this Army man, I don't anymore.
The Army came to my house and interviewed my daughter and began procecuting the PFC. They seized his computer and the camara he borrowed from his superior to take his photos. They took the printouts I had and compared them to PFC's computer and it all matched. PFC pleaded guilty to posession of child pornography and was sentenced to 6 months in Iraq's prison, was demoted, and had to pay restitution to the US government. He sent me a apology letter saying how sorry he was and that he had now "found God".
The Army assured me that the pictures of my daughter were never forwarded to anyone from PFC's computer. They apologized on the behalf of the Army, as they were embarassed about what the PFC did. They Army should be there to serve and protect...not to exploit children.
I would recomend that all parents monitor their child's internet and cell phone usage. You just don't realize the trouble they could get in to...and should prevent it if you can. Imbigbrother.com is a good program. Also, you may want to disable the picture sending on the cell phones. I have AT&T and they were able to do this for me.
Tuesday 10 March
By Jim Pumphrey
I'm a school bus driver (High School Sports Teams). I've noticed that some of the teacher/coaches do not step in when the girls start the gossiping about other girls. These "educators" either join right in with, or do nothing to prevent these girls from talking about or bad mouthing other girls. They are mostly young and too friendly with the young girls. I don't see this with the boys teams.
Tuesday 10 March
By Kyliet
I agree that cell phones arn't to blame!!!! Its like the saying "guns don't kill people poeple kill people." You can not blame the cell phone for parents being too busy to take an intrest in their childrens lives. If todays parents would sit down and talk to their teens maybe our teens wouldn't turn out the way the have been for the last 10+ yrs. To the parents that buy their kids video games and let them play as much as they want you are just as much to blame in helping turn the children into the spoiled brats that think they have to have the cell phones.
Tuesday 10 March
By Emily
When I was in middle school this guy started (a totally untrue) rumor that I offered to give him a blow job for a cigarette. Even though I had never said anything like that, and it would have been completely out of character for me (I didn't even smoke cigarettes). I was teased and ridiculed about it by the girls and some of the guys in my school. In fact the nickname "BJ" stuck with me through high school. Just because your kids don't have cell phones, doesn't mean you can protect them from anything like this. Kids will be cruel, you just have to hope you've done a good enough job parenting that they have the wisdom to know that this too shall pass.
Tuesday 10 March
By Theresasipe@aol.com
Whenever someone takes their life it is tragic. It is not just one persons fault. Unfortunately our reaction is to find someone to blame. When you are a teen for whatever reason you trust people more than you should. She obviously trusted her boyfriend with the pic and did not think about the possible outcome of her actions. Still, it was very wrong for the boyfriend to send them to everyone. There were a few mistakes along the way, and I am sure she would take them back if she could. Kids are very cruel these days, which is one of the many reasons that my husband and I homeschool ours. I was a very young parent (15) to my now 10 year old daughter, so I know the pressures that exist in high school. These families just need prayer and to know that it is not 1 persons fault. Sometimes things happen that we cant explain. She must have felt horrible to decide to take her own life. My prayers go out to her family and friends.
Tuesday 10 March
By SHARRON
this is such a horrible story. my heart breaks for her parents. this was so seneless!!! i wonder if this ex can live with himself. and as far as others that tormented this child, i hope they read this....HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN, CAST THE FIRST STONE !!!!!!!!
Tuesday 10 March
By Erica
The answer is TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN!! You need to have "the talk" with them BEFORE they get to the age where they are introduced to these things (an age that is getting younger and younger these days) it's starting as young as 6th grade now, sometimes younger. You need to let them know the consequences of these actions! Even if you don't plan to teach your child abstinence, please teach them ways to protect themselves from things like this!! There is NO reason for someone to have a nude picture of their boyfriend/ girlfriend. WHat's the purpose? And no matter how much they think they are in love, you never know what's going to happen at that age. I plan to teach my daughter what i learned from my own mistakes as well as the mistakes of others, I hope you will do the same. God Bless!
Tuesday 10 March
By srsly
your kids not having cell phones doesn't help anything, kids are going to be kids and are going to torment each other, yea she got tormented because of something that happened with a cell phone but plenty of kids get bullied in school for all kinds of things that have nothing to do with cell phones. to use something like this and say that its why your kids don't have cell phones is just wrong, if you don't want them to have cell phones that fine, but don't use this tragedy as an excuse
Tuesday 10 March
By Yolanda
I am 22 yrs old now and in grad school, but I must say I did not have a cell phone until I was a senior in high school and even then I did not use it so often. My mother was pretty loose about the uses, but I trusted her and talked with her about everything. Parent or not, I do not think children should have one, what for?! Unless they can pay for it. Also, how is it possible that parents are not involved in their children's lives? I mean really, you just give them what they want? we dont want friends, we want parents! Sex talk is important too!
Tuesday 10 March
By T Hugg
I agree that most of the problem with teenagers are they do what they want and they don't think about the consequences that will come with it. This is sad, but even with the sad ending, teenager girls need to learn to respect themself and be accountable for there behavior. It is no different then drinking and driving, or doing drugs. When you expose yourself to things that have a reaction, then be prepared for the reaction. I remember a girl in high school getting caught having sex, Well she did not care, she took the blows and kept going, We as parents, teachers, neighbors, ect need to go back to the old form of life, where you tell what you know about a child, don't forget they are still teenagers, not adults, so there for if we don't take care of our kids and what they do, try to correct actions, stop thinking it is cute for them to show off all there body and teach them respect for themself, maybe some of the crazy things happening with come to an end. Its not the cell phone fault that the picture was taken, it was the girls fault..... its not the boys fault he received the picture, when I was in high school it was polaroid pictures of girls doing crazy things, so we need to learn when to blame society and when to start blaming our self for not taking the time to do what needs to be done to teach the world of young adults how to respect themself and as adults we need to rethink what we allow and trust....... cause the old saying is boys will be boys, kids will be kids..... lets give our kids something else to focus on beside SEX........Sit and have dinner with your kids and find out what there in put is on this subject..... how would your kid respond to a photo and I am sorry this young girl took her life, but at the same time, maybe the rules should be a little more strict when it comes to allowing young people cell phones and computer access. I pray that this worl wakes up, and fast, we are slowing ending life.