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Jason Mesnick weeping approximately 85 times on Monday's finale of "The Bachelor" has the "GMA" crew buzzing about whether or not it's OK for men to turn on the waterworks. While some of us dig a sensitive show of masculine emotion, at least one of us thinks a guy should only cry upon the death of his father or a beloved dog. (And even then it should be one single tear.) Although we wouldn't go as far as the blogger who wrote yesterday, "He should have been on 'The Biggest Loser,'" we do have to admit that too much emotional blubbering from men or women kind of turns us off. What's do you think -- should real men cry in public?
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Friday 13 March
By Wil
I've never watched the show,but as someone with a bit of Stendhal's Syndrome(a strong emotional response to beautiful art),I can understand men crying some.I'm affected the most by music,and have been to some shows,like one of my faves,Celtic Woman,that I just can't get through dry-eyed.
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Wednesday 25 March
By jerry
Thank you Wil for giving me something to google about. I too weep at breath-
taking art, music, voices singing and things like receiving a big and
unexpected gift or favor especially from someone I know not.
This happened recently to me when a very kind man gave my family
tickets to Nascar race mainly because he was/is a patriot and learned
my son was going to Iraq for his country. This also happens when
I tell someone of the gift. I'll try in the future not to tell about it since it's
happened twice with with me. It is somewhat embarrassing but hey,
aren't we just human. If I had a GF or wife I would be honored if she felt
honored that I cried in front of her. When one gets older (66) and has
gone thru the trials of life crying seems so natural to me. 66 year old male.
It feels very good and cathartic to have a good cry alone once in a while and
I an not the least bit embarrassed. so there.
Friday 13 March
By Kali
Drama Queen! This Guy is nothing but an actor! O.K. you got your 15 minutes of fame, move on Queenie!
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Friday 13 March
By Jeanie
I like Jason I think he is human,he didn't want to drop Melissa off on tv, that was a had to do by the producers of the show,I think Molly was the best for him and his son,It sure didn't hurt Melessa a bit man what a crazy back round she has,I think she sure as hell would not make a good mother for Ty. I wish them all the luck in the world,I hope they have a long and happy life. Melessa isn't hurting one bit.
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Friday 13 March
By dawg
I CRY,EVERYTIME I LEAVE THE LOCAL va CLINIC...AT43 MY DR. TOLD ME I WAS TOO YOUNG FOR SURGERY...THAT WAS 5 YEARS AGO.SINCE,I BOUNCE FROM SHELTER TO MOMS SHED AND FRIENDS...ITS SO HUMILIATING TO LOOK AT THE FACES OF THE PEOPLE FEEDING US AT NIGHT...NOT THAT IM NOT GRATEFUL...JUST ANGRY AM MARINE AND FORMER SOLDIER...beuracracy
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Sunday 15 March
By Judith Beaudoin
I was married to a man who cried . . . I was 20 when we got married, and it took me a few years to realize that he would only cry when it effected himself - he was narcissistic and could not empathize for anyone else. I stuck the marriage out for the duration, 37 years and then he died of a pity party (alcoholism). I shed no tears for him, he had done enough of that for himself.
As for the Bachelor? I watched this and thought that his tears were truly real - I think he is a weak man who had tried to do the right thing, but as with a lot of weak men - he couldn't make a decision by himself.
Sometimes a good man will cry, rarely, and it is a sign of a sensitive person, and I respect this - whiners are disgusting, though.
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Sunday 15 March
By Judith Beaudoin
I think your feelings are genuine and my heart goes out to you. Please get some help, I hope you can break this cycle of depression.
I have MS - I spent about 10 days in my room (after I was diagnosed) and felt so horrible, not knowing what was going to happen to me. Then I faced the worst thing that could happen and weaped some more. At about the tenth day, I started to come out of it and came to the realization that I was going to be grateful for what I had 'left'.
NO! I am not a Pollyanna, I am a realist. When I left my bedroom I realized that I still had my eyes, I could hear, communicate, could laugh and could write and enjoy a lot of life. It is 15 years later and although I walk with a cane - I don't give my MS a thought. I keep concentrating on what I have, NOT what I have lost. NO I am not to be admired, I just decided that self-pity was f 'ing boring, and I had too much to offer than to be mired in regrets.
Those who look at me with pity can shove it - I'm just as good as they are, I am not lesser. I can get from point A to point B, it might be with a cane or a wheel-chair but who gives a shit? I'll get there!!!!
I had a 'friend' who deserted me. I am 66 and we had been best friends from when we were in the forth grade - but she felt that a physical disability made someone lesser . . . No, I don't feel bad for the loss, I just shake my head at how shallow she is inside . . . even though our mutual fiiends don't see what she is, I will take the high road and keep my chin facing the wind.
Helping those who have it worse than I do is my life now and although I am alone, and will never have a mate, I have NEVER BEEN HAPPIER.
Find your way, true happiness is waiting for you, and it is not wrapped around what others think of you, it is looking beyond what disability you have to see the sun at the end of the trail - smile and look forward to another great day. Judy
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Sunday 15 March
By Anna
I don't mind it occasionally. I'm the sort who likes to be the protective one and the comforter sometimes. I mean, if it happens all the damn time, I'll get a little frustrated - or if I get the message he's using it to play with my head. But I do not mind a guy who cries at Fox and the Hound, Dumbo, or Bambi. There are some things that, if it doesn't result in at least a cloudy eye, you have no heart.
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Monday 16 March
By Belinda Bippus
Crying is a natural emotional response to sadness. It happens as a physiological response and it's not gender specific...
I am afraid of men who can't or don't ever shed a tear.
In my experience when a man is unable to cry there is something suppressed so deep in them and they lack the emotional qualities that make us humans...
So what !!! He cried!!! The oddest part to me is not that a man cried, but that he was choosing a wife on a reality show with a line up of women. How sincere and how emotionally healthy is that?
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Tuesday 24 March
By jaybone
This guy went to great lengths to come across as sensitive to the millions of female viewers who tune in to this foolish crap. Every guy watching that show could see through his croc tears. He is hedging his bets so that regardless of how he does with the ladies on that show, he would have them lining up when he got back to "real life". Most guys his age (and mine) were taught in the 80's and 90's that women go weak in the knees for a sensitive guy. Most of us learned through experience that women say they want someone sensitive but in reality they want a MAN, not some metro sexual running around crying during dopey movies like "P.S. I Love you". Someone unfortunately never sent JASON the memo. He is fake, wake up ladies, guys cry to get chicks. I speak from experience, I once cried in front of a date that i brought to see the move "My Girl" with MacCauley Culkin. When he was stung by the bee and the little girl was crying at the foot of his coffin I decided to let the tear duct flood like the collapse of the hoover damn. I do have to admit that she bought it hook, line and sinker but I am humiliated looking back now. Oh well, us guys will do just about anything to get a girl between the sheets. Thats my two cents. Gotta go now, I'm watching "The Hills" reruns! PEACE
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Tuesday 17 March
By tweety bird
The adage goes 'everything in moderation' can apply to men and women alike. Jason boo-hooed but still (in my mind) made the wrong choice...so it seemed he was reflecting that he is an emotional wreck! He seems to not be clear headed at the decision(s) made. His moral compus seems a bit broken. other men who show an emotional side can actually be just reflecting what's in their genes. Not getting in the way of right decision making and clear thinking. If not done over-much I don't find there's anything wrong with it. Before Jason's topsy/turvey choice he just seemed like an endearing man, emotional and deeply in turmoil but eventually knowing where his heart was at but then...he didn't know at all and probably still doesn't!
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Tuesday 17 March
By carol drewry
The adage goes 'everything in moderation' can apply to men and women alike. Jason boo-hooed but still (in my mind) made the wrong choice...so it seemed he was reflecting that he is an emotional wreck! He seems to not be clear headed at the decision(s) made. His moral compus seems a bit broken. other men who show an emotional side can actually be just reflecting what's in their genes. Not getting in the way of right decision making and clear thinking. If not done over-much I don't find there's anything wrong with it. Before Jason's topsy/turvey choice he just seemed like an endearing man, emotional and deeply in turmoil but eventually knowing where his heart was at but then...he didn't know at all and probably still doesn't!
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