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Is being overweight really that big a deal when it comes to matters of the libido? The story of Charlotte Royal, a "desperate" 300-lb. 21-year-old who shed over half her weight in order to lose her virginity, would certainly suggest so. According to the article, Charlotte developed an unhealthy obsession with food after she graduated from school. Being shy, she would stay home and have dinner for one while her friends went on dates. With no body confidence, she was suffering. "I was 21 and desperate to be loved and to enjoy the affection my friends were getting from men," she said.
When a blind date (whom she'd apparently deceived with a misleading picture) told her he preferred "slender" girls, Charlotte says she decided to start living like a "normal" girl.
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1,600 Calories...and Worth It?
13. Funnel Cake from a Creepy Guy at the Fair, Calories: 760, Total Fat: 44 g
It's like a rite of passage when you go to a boardwalk or carnival. Chase it with some cotton candy and then get back to Skee-Ball with a renewed sense of energy.
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12. Jamba Juice Peanut Butter Moo'd Power Smoothie, Calories: 1,170, Fat: 30 g
... from a smoothie! Tacking the word "smoothie" at the end of a name instantly makes it better for you, so no biggie. That's why we have entire-pepperoni-pizza smoothies for lunch every day.
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11. Applebee's Sizzling Apple Pie with Ice Cream, Calories: 1,086, Total Fat: 56 g
There's nothing more American than warm apple pie -- that has over a thousand calories. The ice cream melts over the sizzling sugary crust, creating a hot-and-cold classic for your piehole.
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10. Dairy Queen Georgia Mud Fudge Blizzard, Calories: 1,490, Total Fat: 83 g
When something has "dairy" and a reference to the south in its name, you can bet it's going to err on the side of decadent.
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9. Chili's Chocolate Chip Paradise Pie, Calories: 1,600, Total Fat: 78 g
Why have dessert when you can have novelty dessert?! It comes to your table fajita-style, sizzling in a cast iron skillet. And it's soaking in a vat of cinnamon butter. (Kind of like your heart.)
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8. On the Border Chocolate Turtle Empanadas, Calories: 1,280, Fat: 81 g
Really, how better to wash down a meal of fried flour, refried beans and guac than a pile of pastries filled with chocolate, caramel and pecans. With ice cream. Delicioso!
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7. Don Pablo's Chocolate Volcano Cake, Calories: 1,380, Total Fat: 77g
(Not to be confused with the 1997 film.) Take one chocolate cinnamon cake, drop it in a pool of molten chocolate butter sauce, scoop ice cream on top and shovel into maw. Burp.
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6. Friendly's Caramel Fudge Brownie Sundae, Calories: 1,530, Total fat: 70 g
An Oreo brownie with five scoops of ice cream, hot fudge, caramel and whipped cream. Who could have guessed those ingredients would add up to such high digits? We blame new math.
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5. Baskin-Robbins Heath Bar Shake, Calories: 2,310, Total Fat: 108 g
We like our coffee like we like our men: blended with Heath ice cream and caramel and tastefully garnished with whipped cream and pieces of candy bars.
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4. Cosi Double Trouble Brownie Sundae, Calories: 1,594, Total Fat: 95 g
"One warm chocolate brownie & one blondie topped with two scoops of vanilla ice cream, whipped cream & a cherry." Seven nights on the treadmill, alternating between self-loathing and considering eating another one when you get home.
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After losing 180 pounds, Charlotte did the deed with a guy she met on vacation and has done it with two more since. She says, "Since I've become slim, I am more attractive to men. Sadly, that's the world we live in."
While we can't argue with the fact that we live in a looks-obsessed society, we know plenty of women of all sizes who have never let a few extra pounds stop them from getting active in the bedroom.
According to Charlotte, when she was heavy she "feared men seeing her naked and eventually stopped going out altogether." Sure, weight gain can take a toll on your self-esteem and energy levels, but that's only if you let it.
Our take: Do what it takes to make you feel sexy, regardless of what size you are. We know that men love curvy women with confidence -- just check out this gallery of full-figured pin-ups on Asylum.
Tell us: Was it Charlotte's size, or her attitude that kept her virginity intact?
Hot Bod, Cold Heart
Alex Rodriguez This skanky Yankee came under fire for getting cozy with a stripper at a Las Vegas Scores (ew), and was rumored to be cavorting with Madonna before the ink was dry on either of their divorce papers. Jerkometer rating: 7
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Mario Lopez Who knew that A.C. Slater was such a dirtbag? The buff "Dancing with the Stars" stud reportedly cheated on one lady friend with a Hooters girl, and his two-week 2004 marriage to Ali Landry ended when she learned of his bachelor party antics. Jerkometer rating: 8
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Jude Law He may be gorgeous, and nobody can resist that accent. But you know what we can resist? Sleeping with our nanny. Jude? Not so much. He and then-fiancee Sienna Miller eventually broke up, obvs. Jerkometer rating: 7
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Matt Damon In 1998, Matt Damon told Oprah Winfrey during an interview on her show that he was no longer dating Minnie Driver. According to Driver, that was the first she'd heard of their breakup. Jerkometer rating: 2 (He gets points off for good behavior since.)
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Hugh Grant In 1995, Grant was infamously pulled over by L.A. police for lewd conduct with prostitute Divine Brown. Girlfriend Liz Hurley forgave him and even appeared on his arm at the premiere of "Nine Months" days after his arrest. Jerkometer rating: 9 (extra points for dragging Leno into it)
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David Beckham What is it with married celebrities and the hired help? Although he has always denied it (and OK, so there's no proof), Becks was accused in 2004 of sleeping with then-personal assistant Rebecca Loos. Jerkometer rating: 3 (That shirtless picture inspires our goodwill, OK?)
Milk Processor's of America
Chace Crawford We know two things about the "Gossip Girl" boy: He's a total hottie, and he dumped Carrie Underwood via text. US Weekly reported in April, 2008 that the pair "mutually" parted ways via cellular phones. Jerkometer rating: 1 (hey, we've done it too)
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Charlie Sheen Among other lowlights, Sheen "accidentally" shot ex-fiancee Kelly Preston, spent thousands on madam Heidi Fleiss and symbolically took a chainsaw to his wedding portrait with Denise Richards. Ew. Jerkometer rating: What comes after infinity?
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Ethan Hawke We were sad enough when this brainy babe's artsy-smartsy marriage to Uma Thurman ended. But to then shack up and have a baby with the nanny to his kids? For shame! Jerkometer rating: 4
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Ryan Philippe Although never officially confirmed, rumors still swirl that Ryan Philippe's divorce from his all-American wife Reese Witherspoon had a little something to do with an on-set affair with actress Abbie Cornish, now his girlfriend. Hmm. Jerkometer rating: 6
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Tuesday 03 March
By redconvoy
It was her attitude toward herself and her self-esteem. If she had more confidence, she wouldn't have felt that way.
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Tuesday 03 March
By Brandyn
There is a difference between being full figured and being morbidly obese. I don't see how not wanting to be with someone that is extremely heavy garners any more criticism than refusing to be with someone who does drugs or drinks excessively. Most of our biological instincts cause attraction to certain body types that represent reproductive capability and health. Women are meant to carry more fat. The typical fashion model of today would not be viewed as a healthy female in any kind of traditional society as their low body fat percentage would make it almost impossible to concieve and carry to term under normal circumstances. I guarantee if you ask almost any man they would prefer a woman with a little extra weight than a waif. However, 300 lbs on most peoples frame (male or female) is extremely unhealthy. Many studies have shown that even being 50 lbs overweight can have as much, if not more, of a negative impact on your cardiovascular health as smoking. As a result of extremely poor diet and very minimal physical activity the world population is fatter than it has ever been. Also, don't tell me it is genetics, or hormones, or depression. you will not gain weight unless you take in more calories than you burn. it is a physiological fact. Furthermore many depression problems can be improved through better diet and exercise. I am not saying that all women need to be a size 4 and men need to have six-pack abs, but do not defend being 150 to 200 lbs overweight. it is no different than being a heavy smoker of drinker.
Tuesday 03 March
By mark
I have seen very fat women with confidence. I have had them come on to me. Very Fat women with confidence are kidding themselves. Most guys like me can't even get aroused by a fat girl. There is a certain type of guy (chubby chasers) that likes fat girls. Most of us can't imagine it, and if we do imagine it, we run screaming into the arms of a physically fit woman! Stop kidding yourselves, lose weight, and you will have guys throwing themselves at you. You don't have to be model thin, but if you have kankles, multiple chins, flabby arms, or a big ol butt, you won't get a decent guy to sleep with you
Tuesday 03 March
By beth
true, it was her attitude not being slim---all the guys I know will tell you they like curvy girls,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,but if they dont like something about a gal otherwise they just say they would rather have a skinny gal rather than saying her personality stinks or they dont like shy gals,,,,,,,,,,,but yeah it was her attitude that changed.
Tuesday 03 March
By Lupo
Has anyone actually looked at the "before" photo? We're not talking about someone who had a couple of love muffins on the side: the girl was an enormous blubbery warthog with a gravitational well approaching that of a small planet. Of course she couldn't get laid as a giant beast. Duh.
Wednesday 04 March
By RN
Sadly, the world's population includes a lot of unhealthy people. If we focused more on being healthy, being slim and sexually appealing would happen naturally. Instead, many of us focus on instant self-gratification, ie. fast food and the junk food advertised on TV with the sugar, high fructose corn syrup, trans fats, additives, no fiber, and nutritionally void. Also, TV, video games, remote controls, push button everything, e-mail, cars, and elevators, etc. enable us to practically go through life sitting down and barely move our bodies at all. Charlotte has met her goal to have sex and brags on the internet that she has "done it with three different 'men'" and she is proud of this? Clearly, her own health and good sense is not given a thought. The foremost problem with obesity (and casual sex) is that it is so unhealthy. The risks of high blood pressure, high blood sugar, heart and kidney disease, stroke, and disability are just not worth eatting the junk. Imagine not being able to swallow, to speak, to walk, to bathe or toilet yourself, to require a catheter because you cannot urinate, or enemas because you cannot defecate, a mechanical lift to help you get out of bed, bed sores and fungal rashes because of the skin folds, pressure and hygiene issues that you cannot manage by yourself because you cannot reach your own body parts. You require surgical joint replacements because your joints cannot manage your weight. You think I exaggerate? I kid you not. I am a re-hab nurse and care every day for folks who have all of that and more--blindness, amputations--all could have been avoided if folks managed their own weight and their own health. This is not just an individual issue, but a social one as well since many of the patients I work with are un-insured. Charlotte, keep your weight under control for your own health and all the other good things in life will come with it. If you keep in mind that this is the only body you have and it needs to serve you well for a lifetime, nourishing it with healthy food becomes a no-brainer. Also, healthy women have easier pregnancies and healthier babies. Healthy children depend on 2 healthy parents. This, of course, is another social issue. I could write a book.......but, for now I have no shortage of patients. PS I want to be with a healthy man because sharing his healthy life style will help me to be healthy too and he will live to share a healthy and independent old age. Our retirement funds can be used for fun instead of for a nursing home. (This is not a superficial reason!)
Wednesday 04 March
By Imperator58
There's a lot going on here, and 'passing judgement" isn't that simple.
FIRST, as Brandyn said, there's a bit overweight and there's grossly overweight. I don't really feel people can truly be blamed for not bing interested in a 300-pound woman. Now, I will tell you my own wife, whom I adore, once weighed about that and had gastric bypass surgery; she's gained some of it back, but in the interval I came to know and love her. But from ground zero? I wouldn't have dated her at her old weight. And it's basically because... yes, she could be a great person, but so are a lot of folks who AREN'T 300 pounds. So why take a chance on someone obese when there are scores of ladies (or guys, if you're a gal) to take a chance on who aren't obese.
SECOND, the poor girl is 21. At that age, the opposite sex is not too terribly interested in such niceties as character, heart & personality. Guys or girls, if you aren't "hot" you're kinda out of luck; it's a bad age to be obese. Bad age to be a nerd, too.
THIRD, the lass' self-esteem issues went beyond being fat and insecure. She evidently had major issues BEFORE getting fat; that's how she got there in the first place. Being self-destructive and self-loathing isn't attractive, either. Now, look at the picture of the young lady; she's HOT. I mean, seriously hot. Pretty, interesting face, built like the proverbial brick ****house. And she ate herself to 300 pounds??! Gots Issues. Hopefully, she will be able to get over them.
The string of partners doesn't bode too well, though. She still hasn't found love, friendship or acceptance, just a few horny guys.
Tuesday 03 March
By Don
I suppose she lost her virginity to a fat guy ... right? Right!
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Tuesday 03 March
By Bella
Well Don, I beg to differ with you on that one. I know a woman who is probaly over 300 pounds. She keeps herself clean and well groomed and dresses pretty decent, though not exactly in designer fashions. She is 34 and she lost her husband a few years ago. That has not stopped her one bit. She is not at a loss for attractive men to pay attention to her. It is the way she carries herself and her confidence in her sexuality that attracts men to her. Though I do not approve of sex outside of marriage, that is HER and not me, that has chosen to live that way. Last I heard, she had a young pup of about 25 that she has been seeing for a couple of years, now. And "No", she does NOT have money. She gets a small pension from her dead husband and she has five kids, but one does not live with her.
Tuesday 03 March
By maria
I was a strong bbw untile I married my husband. he married why I was heavy never once said anything about my weight to me. One day I ask him why don't he have sex with me that much. He said because he could not enjoy because of my weight. I was really hurt and fall in to a depression over this i ended up gaining more weight. then he started to make remarks about my weight. I got really mad one day and said I will show him. I ended up losing 100 pounds just to prove to him I can look good too. I still ned to lose 40 more pounds, but i do fell good about myself. I love the way he acts over me now.
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Tuesday 03 March
By linda p
i can't believe you stayed with him, i wouldn't let him touch this now if he wouldn't before! drop that zero and get your self a hero! honey he's a jerk, you deserve better!
Tuesday 03 March
By Barbara
Lose the extra 40 and dump his sorry @#$. I am 150 pounds overweight. My husband married me when I was fat (not as fat as now, but definitely overweight). He sees past that. He supports my efforts to lose weight as best he can, but does not treat me like crap because I haven't. I have low self esteem because of my weight too, yes, but I still have enough self respect that I would not let the man who is supposed to love honor and cherish me (and who obviously lied about it) treat me like this.
Tuesday 03 March
By Mindy
If you did that because your husband is a dick and didn't love you enough to accept you as you were to begin with, then you lost the weight for the wrong reasons. You don't lose weight for other people just like the girl in this story did. You lose it for yourself. No one can effect your self esteem but YOU! That's why it's called SELF esteem.. If you're not happy with yourself do something about it... If someone else isn't happy with you because of your looks/weight, you need to kick their ass to the curb. There is someone for everyone, but you need to be out for yourself first.
Tuesday 03 March
By LuLu
You now need to take spelling classes.
Tuesday 03 March
By cheledana
Sounds like your husband needs a wake up call. If he really loved you, size wouldn't matter.
Tuesday 03 March
By E
I think the fact that your husband married while you were big is because he loves you and he didn't see that as a big issue. It's good that you got up enough confidence to loose weight. I think that your husband doesn'y know how to talk to you or to be a support to your weight loss and health. I think that you should tell him how you feel that he said that about you, and ask him to be more supportive of you. Nowadays, in the society where women are being airbrushed and slimmed down unrealistically by computers, men tend to think average women are big women.
Tuesday 03 March
By Just Me
And you are still with him?????
Tuesday 03 March
By Tami
Maria that is great you took charge and got yourself healthy but you may want to think about something else, if he only loves you and respects you as a thin woman, maybe you should move on. Life is too short to stay with superficial people and those kinds always will find something to tear your self esteem down due to their own insecurities. Good Luck and Congrats on the weight loss!
Tuesday 03 March
By Thomas
I, personally have never been with a "big" girl up until recently. A close friend of mine (who happens to be on the heavy side, probably 200lbs) and I had always been emotionally attracted to eachother and had a bit too much to drink. We decided to get physical and ended up in bed. I have to say in the most sincere way as possible, that I honestly didn't enjoy it as much as I do with someone with a smaller frame. There was too much "cushion for the pushin" if you will.
I'm by no means saying this to be mean, and your husband definately should have never said what he said to you. There are many more delicate ways to positively suggest weight loss. I.E. Honey, I just joined the gym and started working out. I'm feeling great after it. Would you come with me sometime. I'd like to do something active with you. I think it would be fun. Or suggest a particualr meal for dinner that you "love" that just happens to be very healthy. Make healthy life decisions for yourself and ask her to partake in them with you. If your partner refuses, then that's a different story... probably someone who does not care about themselves at all and if they don't care about you or themselves, why should you care about them? Just my personal opinion.
Tuesday 03 March
By KIMBERLY
How did you lose the weight?