"Marriage is a fine institution, but I'm not ready for an institution." -Mae West

It's been a year, and I'm still not divorced! In fact, we celebrate our 18th anniversary this month! My "ex" moved to take another job. The kids and I were clueless as to what was really going on: He had a girlfriend on the side and they got engaged before I even knew there was another woman. Needless to say, I went and filed for divorced after I found out about that.

He's refused to sign all papers -- but he paid cash for a new truck last month and bought a new house with her, where they live together. He refuses to pay child support consistently, yet they both wear new wedding rings and call each other Mr. and Mrs. He quit his job recently and canceled all of our insurance. He's done everything the judge has said not to. And I can't get a divorce! It's driving me crazy. I am so done with him and just want him to go away. Ugggh!

-- Anonymous, Oklahoma