If you've ever sneaked a peek at your significant other's e-mail or Facebook page, you are far from alone. A Virgin Media survey of 1,000 men and women found that 28 percent of women snoop on their partners by logging into their social networking accounts (guess it's time to change that password, dudes). Up to 64 percent of those under 35 admitted to pulling a Veronica Mars on a loved one. Women are more likely than men to spy (despite hilarious film evidence to the contrary, like "The Pink Panther").
"Why?" you may ask. Perhaps it's because you want to chuckle at your man's lame attempt to hide his porn folder amongst his boring files. It might be something more sinister, such as extreme paranoia that one's partner is cheating because of past experiences with infidelity.
One thing's for sure: If you're going to snoop, try your best not to get caught. As College Candy notes, "Lots of times, the female intuition is right, and cheating has certainly been taking place. Other times, there is no cheating whatsoever, and if he catches you snooping, you can come off looking like a crazy, neurotic nut bag and he will dump you -- justifiably."
Plus, if you do find something weird, it's often hard to tell the guy without letting on that you were prying ... and that makes you the bad guy.
Of course, if you are a crazy, neurotic nut bag, then you're really not going to care what anyone thinks. Just know that paranoia can be a two-way street, and your partner just might be snooping on you.
Tell us: Have you ever read your partner's e-mail? Would you?












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Sunday 01 February
By JerseyGirl71
I hate to say it, but in this day and age everyone seems to be cheating on their significant other. I can't tell you how many times I have guy friends hit on me who are married or with someone already and, though they seem harmless to hang out with, so many of them flirt, come on to me and don't want to hear the word 'no'. I'm not the kinda of person to sit there and let someone cheat on their spouse/g-f so it makes for a very long exit at the end of the night. Are people really that unhappy with their relationships? Then why are they in them?
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Saturday 31 January
By meagan
i know i may be young, only being 16 and all. but i've been cheated on various times. so sometimes i do sneak a peek at my boyfriends texts messages. i'm really attached to him, but he doesn't seem very trustworthy, or maybe thats just my insecurities?
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Saturday 31 January
By Christa
I've snooped before...it's not so much because I'm worried that my boyfriend is cheating on me as it is that I'm curious to see what he's up to. Fortunately I've never found anything bad or exciting...I don't think that there's anything wrong with it either, I don't have anything to hide and he shouldn't either...
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Sunday 01 February
By Frank01
You left out two critical things in your view of how a relationship should be conducted........privacy and trust.
It has nothing to do with you believing he shouldnt have anything to hide. Its a control issue with you. You are precisely the kind of girl they make movies about....romantic horror flicks.
Sunday 01 February
By chris
if you're curious, just ask. If he's nervous or evasive, then snoop. Look for tells. If you resort to gestapo tactics from the start, you won't build a lasting and trusting relationship. Unfortunately, getting cheated on and hurt is part of the risk in any relationship. If you hedge your bets, you are not betting at all.
i.e. if you don't trust someone, you really don't love them at all. To not think it is wrong is insane. Your justification is the same for those who want to allow our real freedoms to be legislated away to quell petty fears.
I live preemptively now by having passwords, but if any of them were cracked by my girlfriend, I would no longer trust HER. Goodbye to relationship after that.
Sunday 01 February
By linda
I have no reasons to "spy" on my husband. We have a honest relationship. My husband knows that he can have access to any of my accounts because I have nothing to hide.
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Sunday 01 February
By chris
If you don't trust me, than you shouldn't want to be with me.
If you can't trust anybody completely, then I don't want to be with you.
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Sunday 01 February
By pacman99
It's hard to beleive that 28% of women are honest enough to madmit that they snoop. It should be more like 80%.
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Sunday 01 February
By Mitzi
Nah. I'd never read his e-mail unless he wanted me to. I respect his privacy and I trust him completely. He's often laughed at me for being so trusting. He's said he doesn't care if I go through his drawers or anything because he has nothing to hide. Well, I don't either, but I respect his privacy... and I love him dearly.
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Sunday 01 February
By Alicia
I was recently seeing a man for about 10 months. Around the fourth month of dealing with his bs.. and expressively after a night of his (and his friends!) drunken demeaning treatment of me, I looked through his 300+ texts saved in his inbox (as he was passed out snoring in my bed).. and found many subsisting of sexual oriented content from various different girls. I ended it for about a month.. but as all Don Juan's have the ability to do, he lured me back in with sweet words and denying all claims of sleeping with anyone else. So six months pass with me foolishly following him around like a sad puppy, more unanswered calls than I could count and far more lies than I wish to acknowledge.. and low and behold, I find out, just last week, he was seeing another girl the whole effing time (not including his weekly one night stands, whilst out with the boys). Fact is, woman's intuition is rarely off.. if you feel that strongly that your man is sleeping around, why even bother snooping.. just leave him.. if you can't trust him, there is no point in dragging out unnecessary pain. It hurt more so for me to actually put a face with the body. I wish I would have left him this summer when I first started having doubts into his fidelity.
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Sunday 01 February
By TxChic71
This past week, my bf had looked through my facebook and tried to call me out on things that happend in the past.. I trust him and have no reason to look through his things, and he has no reason to look through mine.. but he does anyway.. this first time he did it, i changed my password to see if he would still check, and he got a hold of my computer the other day and still went through my things.. it's very annoying, i feel bad for any guy OR girl that has to deal with this cuz it sucks.
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Sunday 01 February
By Kira
then dump him meagan
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Sunday 01 February
By Lisa
If you have nothing to hide, who cares if she looks. Its those of you that are hiding something that are upset about this. A friend of mine looked through her mans things on a hunch and found out he was having a long distance affair.
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Monday 02 February
By Julia
Wow, the men really get worked up about this! Trust should hopefully go with love, but in reality, it doesn't always works that way. Many trustworthy women go into love with their eyes half shut - they're crazy about the guy, they trust him, and then he proves unworthy and breaks her hard - old story. Of course (I hope anyway) that plenty of guys aren't like this, but when a woman's been burned by a man or two, she feels like a fool and is afraid to trust. We all suffer for the past sins of our girlfriend/boyfriend's past relationships.
If you hard-line men want your woman to trust you, don't show the door as soon as she shows some insecurity! (Geesh) Show her forgivenss if she needs it and show her that YOUR love is real.
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Wednesday 01 April
By Johnny
I am not sure what women think or why they would try to justify snooping. It is an invasion of privacy no matter how you look at it. Just because you are in a relationship does not give either party the right to invade privacy. If you think he or she is cheating confront it and move on. Being in a relationship means trusting the other party until a situation arises that casts doubt. That being said if you can't trust in the relationship then don't be in it. Hopefully you will find someone that snoops and makes you uncomfortable by looking through your things.
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Monday 28 December
By careone
Yes, I did look at my ...now x-boyfriends hidden icon, and found out that "friends" to him is nude picture exchange and having sex. I am so glad I snooped, because he lied to me, and we were in a long distance realionship for 3 years.
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