I watched it unfold before my very eyes: Scott's Facebook status changed. Scott went from being "in a relationship" to "single."
Within seconds, the vultures descended upon the rotting corpse of Scott's relationship ...
Carra: So sorry to hear that. What happened?
Jill: I always thought I was your always and forever girlfriend.
Andrea: I'm so sorry. Call me.
And so on.
When you're interested in a guy, of course you check his page regularly. And when you see that he's suddenly single, you get excited.
But how long should you wait to begin the flirting after his Facebook relationship status has changed? I asked my Facebook posse' and got pretty much the same response from everyone: "Immediately, if not sooner." "Depends on how fast you can move." "Less than 30 seconds."
Social networking expert Cara Jedell, host of the popular Internet show "Funny in Bed" says you can flirt as usual, but that super-obviously swooping in is tacky. "Post some hot pics of yourself, and wait for him to come to you," she says. "Same rules apply whether you are looking for love online or not. Let him be the cyber man."
So what do you think? Have you ever taken advantage of a guy's recent "loss" to make your move?
CJ Arabia writes the "How to Get Laid ... Off" column and is a frequent Lemondrop blogger.












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Thursday 29 January
By Carlos
If anything, wait a day or two and reach out to them outside of Facebook to offer a comforting message/secretly dig for details. Going through Facebook is epitome of TACKY.
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Thursday 29 January
By Erica
Swooping in like that only makes you look desperate and will only lead you to being the rebound gal/guy anyway.
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Thursday 29 January
By lampton
that's a cute article! women can spot the good guys a mile away.. a hot women can appeal to a man's ego like fuel on a fire..
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Thursday 29 January
By gage
I've never swooped in on a guy, cause i am one, but I strike up a conversation with a female if I am interested in her. Nothing to pressing, just normal convo.
Love reading your articles, glad you write :)
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Thursday 29 January
By seanlmccarthy
I'm telling Mather!
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Thursday 29 January
By Garvito
I have seen the swoops and the swoopers make me sick. "Icky-sick."
Never are they anything but slimy guys/girls, that are always hunting the hunted.
They are the ones that one's parents might have suggested and you've felt that "Icky-sick," feeling. Begone buzzards!
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Thursday 29 January
By lswannygrl
I don't think you should pounce but life is short...why wait?:)
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Thursday 29 January
By The Other CJ
What I love is when the status has changed by accident...then I can see who my REAL friends are on my fiance's page! And if they're stupid, what they really think of me!!!! Sweeeeeet!!!!!
Damn! Thanks, CJ...THERE'S a new addiction...I'm going to kick back, pop some popcorn & change both our status' just for kicks!!!!
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Monday 27 July
By Ann
This article is so true, whenever my ex's status on myspace would change, suddenly every girl that was so "happy for us" and thought "you two are so cute together!" would begin to really change up the conversation in that "i'm so sorry you and your girlfriend broke up but you can come screw me now, if you want" tone. home wreckers, if i didnt know better, are always stupid enough to show their true colors when this myspace status change happens. don't they know that every guys ex girlfriend watches their facebook/myspace like a hawk for any sort of sign of him moving on/any sign of people moving in on him? goodness. girls must really be stupid if they think a guys ex girlfriend isn't totally watching. this article describes my biggest pet peeve, it doesnt matter how over you are over your ex...it's STILL not cool for girls to move in on him that you once thought were harmless friends of his, or even yours. sorry ladies, but we will always be watching to see if you add out ex boyfriends to your social networking profile, and we will be watching when your dumb ass decides to flirt with him via comments for the whole world to see.
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