Now that the madness of moving has calmed down a bit, I've had an opportunity to think on a slightly deeper level than where I should put all our kitchen utensils. I will say that I think the whole relocation process has actually been going quite well. However, my life wouldn't be complete without some sort of drama, and all this Jack Handy-ing has resulted in a brand new set of psychological issues.
Here's the thing: The house that my husband and I are living in ... we've lived in it before. And not in some bizarre, "Twilight Zone" way. My husband and I met when we were both living in Vegas, roughly seven years ago. Well, this is the house he owned back then.
Meaning that the last time I called this place home, my husband and I were dating.
Click here to read how Amy and her husband have regressed ...
I feel like I've entered some sort of crazy time warp and any second Dr. Frank N. Furter is going to jump out of the closet and throw a piece of toast at me.
When we left Vegas a few years later, we held onto the house as a rental property. So when we decided to move back, it was an easy decision to boot out the renters and reclaim the house for ourselves. That was all well and good until I started to experience the psychological regression that went along with it.
When we were living here the first time around, it was clearly his house. His name was on the title. He payed the mortgage. His furniture was in the living room. And when we were dating, that was totally fine. In fact, I was excited to be with a guy who was adult enough to own real estate.
Now that we're married and all "joint" in our accounts, the house is "ours," but somehow I still feel like I'm bunking with my boyfriend. It's amazing how a place can have such an impact on you, despite all your rational feelings to the contrary. It's kinda like visiting my parents in the house I grew up in. For some reason I automatically revert to the teenage habit of asking permission to stay out after 11 p.m.
I'm really trying to not let the history of a house affect my mental state, but with all the changes recently, everything is compounding to make me a walking basket case. Oh, and it snowed here this week. A lot. In the middle of the freaking desert. Maybe I am in a "Twilight Zone" episode, after all.

















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Friday 07 August
By Jennifer
Hi I've recently moved too and although my circumstances are not identically to yours I can relate to a general theme of regression. First off moving comes with it such a bombardment of change that the mind can go into stress overload and the rational mind feels taxed and left without reserves to deal with some new conflict. Some of my difficulties with moving revolve around career change and income loss. I felt like I was being taken care of and this brought up some parental dependent issues, never the less it was a shock to my system and regression to times gone by. Enough about me this is what I did and it help ten fold. Because I felt like I was going in circles over this issue. I sat my husband down and said very calmly that I was having trouble with.........at the time I was even afraid to make this his problem and added I feel kinda afraid to to talked to about this because.....then I asked what he thought. Being very vulnerable was difficult yet it created dialog and reassured me that he's not thinking that and he just wanted me to be happy were we were. So I would suggest go beyond the fear lean on your husband for a moment and receive the perceptive you need. I predict that if you express you fear your twilight zone experience with dissipate.
-Jennifer
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