No matter how much you may say it's not true, the first present a guy gives you can either win you over or turn you off. A survey by a U.K. dating site found that over a third of women would consider dumping a guy over a bad gift. Unfortunately, some men are just clueless when it comes to giving presents to their sweethearts. Check out these real-life examples of the good, the bad and the ugly presents received from potential beaus. Then leave a comment to share your own stories -- we'll run the best and worst gifts in a future post on Lemondrop.
THE BAD
These poorly planned presents made women wonder what their men were thinking.
Recycled Ring
"He gave me a ring that I found out later he'd originally bought for his ex-girlfriend. It was too big for my finger, too!" -- Jervilyn, Maui
Total Writeoff
"One guy gave me a pen from Tiffany's and said it's because I was such a great writer. I guess he wanted to be a big-shot and get something from Tiffany's, but couldn't commit to getting something that might be interpreted as romantic. I'd say it was a corporate gift he was recycling, but he'd never had a real job, so probably not." -- Sandy, Burlington, Vt.
Gadget Guy
"This guy I was seeing got me a DVD player, which I thought was pretty sweet, since I'd been borrowing his for a few months. That is, until two weeks later, when he dumped me and made a point of asking me for his DVD player back -- I guess that had been his point." -- Coco, Los Angeles
Lit Up
"A whole group of us had a big dinner party, and the planned highlight of the night was a gift exchange. Apparently the guy I'd been seeing had neglected to buy me anything, so when it came time for his turn, he beamed and gave me a Zippo that he claimed was 'very special' to him and that he'd clearly just fished out of his pocket." -- Rita, Dallas
Great Gifts $25 and Under
Cube Cocktail Jigger, $25, MOMA.
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Sushi Shower Curtain and Wastebasket, $18.95, Archie McPhee.
www.mcphee.com
Cupcake Stand Kit, $9.99, Wilton.
www.wilton.com
Custom Aveda Gift Baskets, from $10.50, Aveda.
www.aveda.com
'Sandtastic' Bucket of Candy, $22.50, Dylan's Candy Bar.
www.dylanscandybar.com
Combination Cutting Board and Colander, $24, MOMA.
www.moma.org
Schick Quattro Titanium Trimmer, $12, Schick.
www.schickquattro.com
Lego iPod Dock, $25, Urban Outfitters.
www.urbanoutfitters.com
Travel French Press Coffeemaker, $5.37, Bodum.
www.bodumusa.com
Bacon Band-Aids and Bacon Wallet, $4.95 and $9.95, Archie McPhee.
www.mcphee.com
Art-Stopper
"I went out with this super-artsy guy for a while in college. That wasn't my normal type but I guess I liked that he was sensitive. I changed my mind that December, when he gave me a drawing he'd sketched of me, naked, with a star of David drawn next to me. Apparently he was trying to show how open he was to my religion, in addition to how interested he was in the idea of seeing me naked. Super creepy." -- Miriam, Minneapolis
Juvenile Junk
"An oversized stuffed teddy bear that looked like three pillows combined and a mix tape of 90's alternative and house dance songs. What was he thinking?" -- Cheryl, Rockland
Cruel Lintentions
"When my husband and I started dating, he gave me three gifts that were obviously purchased at our local Walgreens on the way over to my parents' house. He saw my disappointment, left the party and came back with another gift that was beautifully wrapped. I assumed the other stuff was a joke and excitedly opened this one, only to find that it was a lint roller. He assumed a lint roller would be a perfect gift because I worked in an office. Guess he figured all people that work in offices are covered in lint." -- Lynna, Seattle
Book Learning
"My boyfriend always lectured me about nutrition, because I was a vegetarian and he was convinced I wasn't eating healthily. So for Christmas he got me 'The Omnivore's Dilemma.' As if that weren't romantic enough, he then proceeded to take it from me, read it himself, and lose it. Quite a giver, that one." -- Gail, Philadelphia
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Thursday 18 December
By Debbie
Bad Xmas Gift. Used 1940's bra bought on ebay that was covered with perspiration stains and rusty hooks. And he actually expected me to wear it, he pestered me for months to wear it. he was serious!!!!
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Saturday 20 December
By Me
that was my moms bar
Thursday 18 December
By Sori~chickengal7
My (ex)boyfriend surprised me with a Nick Jonas T-Shirt and a poster for the Twilight movie. Is it just me, or did he have a thing about getting me stuff with other (hotter) guys on it?? Those have to be the two best presents I've ever gotten!
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Thursday 18 December
By Erin
My ex was living in Miami while I was in a different city at the time, and since he didn't know what to get my I thought I'd give him a hint. Well, I ended up purchasing it for him, having it sent to MY house and wrapping it MYself so that when he got home to me it was ready to be opened together.
And by the way he didn't even know what I had gotten.
Oh yeah.
Erin
http://www.thenakedhippie.com
Organic T-shirts
Thursday 18 December
By CJ
I didn't have this happen to me, but unless you are actually proposing, never give a girlfriend a square black jewelry box. If you're already married, then the square jewelry box is fine for those earrings. If you are not proposing and still want to get jewelry, make sure it's in one of those longer jewelry boxes that screams BRACELET! before the wrapping paper is torn off.
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Thursday 18 December
By Tammy
I agree TOTALLY! Also, NO WATCHES!
Friday 19 December
By Jenna
I did get the little square box one Xmas. It was just a couple weeks after talking about what kind of rings I liked, and other stuff, like if I were to be engaged, how long of an engagement and at what age (I was in college), etc. As I opened it, my hands were shaking so hard I almost dropped it. HUGE letdown to find a necklace.
Thursday 18 December
By Mitzi
WTF?! Why can't two people just love each other? My boyfriend is in Iraq right now and all I want for Christmas is him...screw that present bull crap. Just be happy you're with the one you love and stop expecting your guy to give you your perfect gift, you high-maintenance dumby.
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Thursday 18 December
By Mickey
ya true
Thursday 18 December
By Carly Csirns
Thanks you you are the first peroson on here who does not care about gifts. I mean my boyfriend told me what do I want for chrstmas and I all I told him was to spend time with him. So now we are spedning chrstmas eve and day with each other and that what really ameks mer happy. Sure it is nice to get stuff but if you truleey love someone lke I do then isn't that better than any present. I am only 17 but I understand that love is so much better than a gift.
Thursday 18 December
By Julie
Who is the dummy? You are sweetheart....
Friday 19 December
By Siren
Hey Mitzi,
My boyfriend leaves for his second deployment in January. I nearly cried when he told me he would have leave for Christmas. Needless to say, my gift is spending Christmas in his arms.. at this point, time together is the only thing that matters.
I know how you feel and the strength it takes to do what you are doing! Never forget the power of support and love from home. You will get your gift of having him home someday soon, and trust me, it doesn't matter if it's christmas or your birthday, that moment will be the greatest gift life gives you!
Thank you for putting some prospective in here (and give your man a little love from the rest of us)!
Friday 19 December
By Whit
AMEN. Yes, there are thoughtless gifts, but I haven't seen my boyfriend for two months. he's flying in to see me on the 27th and even though it's two days late, it's the best christmas present i've ever gotten. :-) And he kept stressing about what to buy me. I told him, "honey. Just show up. That's good enough."
What's with all this materialistic b.s.?
Saturday 20 December
By shawn
OMG, Thank you for that little glimmer of hope that people out there could still want and appreciate just the company of their loved one for the holidays, i understand completely where you are coming since my fiance is deployed to the Philippines until June.. So while theyre cryin over necklaces and watches but they have their loved one there to do just that, i dont have mine xmas, new years, valentines day, his bday, my bday... they definately dont know how to appreciate what they do have.
Saturday 20 December
By jojo
i agree,why cant ppl just enjoy being together?
if its really the thought that counts,why do gifts matter?
Saturday 20 December
By coconutt15
Because of the financial crunch we are just doing presents for the kids this year. Sure there's lots of things I would love to have, but none of it is more important than the kids!
Saturday 20 December
By beth
my xmas wish for you is that the two of you get together forever. I pray he stays safe, and you also.I will treasure every stuffed animal my husband of 35+ years has ever given me...bought with thought!!!
Sunday 21 December
By carly
Mitzi, I agree totally with what you said. But I don't think that when you are disappointed with a lame gift from a boyfriend or husband you are being selfish or materialistic. I think the disppointing thing is that you know they weren't even thinking about you or even care about how the gift makes you feel. Better to get nothing at all and a new boyfriend. I hope for the safe return of your boyfriend and all our men and women in the Middle East.
Saturday 20 December
By Matt
i respect that
Sunday 21 December
By Michelle
You're the ONLY one on here so far who has the right idea.