Lemondrop

Most of us aren't the first female our guys have had a relationship with, and some of us aren't the last.

Unfortunately, the Ex Factor exists.

There were girls there before you. They might have been similar. They may have been your polar opposites. But they were there, and now they're gone.

The real question is this: Do you snoop on your guy's exes? Are you curious about them, or would you rather not even know they existed? Personally, I'd rather not know. I don't want to know if she shared his heart, his bed or even just a movie. Being concerned with whatever random flavor of strange that once coexisted with my guy is not anywhere in my priorities, mostly because I don't allow it to exist in my reality. However, if you are curious enough, these days, it isn't hard to dig into the past.

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Maybe you scan his Facebook profile, and maybe you find her profile. Soon you start looking for wall messages or pokes, all while allowing her current profile picture to drive you crazy -- after all, you now have the shirt she's wearing in the picture. (You, of course, look better in it.)

Next, you may find out that she bought him his favorite cologne, causing you to toss it in the trash, even though it smells like fall, luxury and everything that is right with the world. Soon after that, you find out she was good friends with his mother. Maybe next you find out they shared a favorite movie that you love or a favorite restaurant (one that he still takes you to). Pretty soon you're sitting Indian-style on the floor of your kitchen eating Cherry Garcia out of the carton, all because some girl with a bad perm and superbly manufactured ta-ta's wants to know if your guy's Aunt Myrtle still likes peonies, and if so, would she like her to bring some over?

The truth is, sometimes knowing about your guy's past relationships can interfere with the one you have going in the present.

Digging in the past can be a vicious cycle. It can get ugly. It can bring up issues that wouldn't have ever been a problem, and it can also sometimes make you look a tad bit crazy. But in the end, it's completely up to you.

Tell us: How do you deal with the Ex Factor?