Last year, 22-year-old Taryn Davis lost her husband, Cpl. Michael W. Davis, in an IED bombing in Iraq. Not only was she heartbroken, but she was amazed by the lack of resources available for men and women who had lost their spouses in military conflicts. So she decided to help fill that void herself in the form of the American Widow Project, a documentary and nonprofit organization dedicated to helping the spouses of men and women killed in military conflicts through the grieving process.
The documentary, shown at film festivals around the country, is comprised of Taryn's taped visits with young widows around the country. "It was for me," she told the New York Times of making the film. "I was hoping I would learn a little about what my life would be like without Michael. I really just wanted to know that I wasn't alone."

The AWP Web site provides a 24-hour hotline for widows, staffed by men and women who have lost military spouses. It also provides networking assistance to help connect widows with local people willing to volunteer services like babysitting and counseling.
The Web site's resources range from information on planning a funeral to dealing with military protocol, but perhaps most uniquely, the site provides forums for spouses to share stories, advice, memories and photographs to help one another cope with their grief.
Click here to preview the "American Widow Project" documentary, available for sale on the organization's Web site.
Also on Lemondrop: See how people around the country and world honored Veterans Day.
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Florence Palko, standing next to her son Gary, pays tribute to her husband Walter Palko who is buried in Arlington National Cemetery on Veterans Day in Arlington, Virginia, November 11, 2008. Florence shares her birthday with the national holiday and took the day to remember her husband who was a veteran of the Korean and Vietnam wars. REUTERS/Mitch Dumke (UNITED STATES)
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A large sign showing the number of U.S. troops killed in the war in Iraq is shown on Veteran's Day in a field of 4,824 wooden crosses in Lafayette, California November 11, 2008. REUTERS/Robert Galbraith (UNITED STATES)
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Lorna Levante and her eight-year-old daughter, Kelsey, visit a memorial constructed of 4,824 wooden crosses, the number of U.S. troops killed in the war in Iraq, on Veteran's Day in Lafayette, California November 11, 2008. REUTERS/Robert Galbraith (UNITED STATES)
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CHICAGO - NOVEMBER 11: (AFP OUT) U.S. President-elect Barack Obama (L) and Gulf War veteran Tammy Duckworth both their heads after placing a wreath to honor America's veterans on Veterans Day at the Bronze Soldiers Memorial November 11, 2008 in Chicago, Illinois, The national holiday, held on the anniversary of the end of World War I, honors all those who have served their country in the military. (Photo by Tannen Maury-Pool/Getty Images)
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CHICAGO - NOVEMBER 11: (AFP OUT) U.S. President-elect Barack Obama (L) and Gulf War veteran Tammy Duckworth honor America's veterans on Veterans Day at the Bronze Soldiers Memorial November 11, 2008 in Chicago, Illinois, The national holiday, held on the anniversary of the end of World War I, honors all those who have served their country in the military. (Photo by Tannen Maury-Pool/Getty Images)
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President and First Lady Laura Bush wave as they returned to JFK airport in New York on Tuesday, Nov. 11, 2008, following Veteran's Day ceremonies aboard the Intrepid Air and Space Museum. (AP Photo/Rick Maiman)
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President and First Lady Laura Bush wave as they returned to JFK airport in New York on Tuesday, Nov. 11, 2008, following Veteran's Day ceremonies aboard the Intrepid Air and Space Museum. (AP Photo/Rick Maiman)
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Rudy Castore, a World War II veteran, waves from a military truck during the Veterans Day parade in New York, Tuesday, Nov. 11, 2008. (AP Photo/Seth Wenig)
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UNIONDALE, NY - NOVEMBER 11: The New York Islander players stand through a moment of silence to commemorate Veteran's Day prior to their game against the Philadelphia Flyers on November 11, 2008 at the Nassau Coliseum in Uniondale, New York. (Photo by Bruce Bennett/Getty Images)
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Vietnam veterans with the organization Veteran's for Peace march wearing masks of President Bush, Vice President Cheney and Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice in the Veterans Day parade in Boston., Tuesday, Nov. 11, 2008.(AP Photo/Charles Krupa)
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Tuesday 11 November
By james
tammy wow and i throught i had problems
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Tuesday 11 November
By Ed
It discusts me to think for a moment that she would feel alone. I presume that she was on base. if she was not then shame on the community for not coming forward and being beside her in her loss. In our very small community our church offerers it's Pastor,the church proper and meal after internment for anyone in the community member or not.
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Tuesday 11 November
By Mel
It doesnt matter if you grieve alone or have someone else there, it all depends on who you are and how you want to deal with it. I have been threw a situation of loosing someone I was going to marry and I dealt with it alone. It was hard but thats just how I wanted to deal with it.
I praise her for doing what she is doing but if the ppl want someone there then they have that choice, and if they dont, then dont make a big deal out of it. People are who they are.
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Tuesday 11 November
By klajfie
your an insperation .... i think what you are doing is awesome .... God will help you through the rough times and he helps you with your problems God answers Knee mail .. thanks for all you do God Bless
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Tuesday 11 November
By Jerry
To all veteran heros out there, husband, wife, and lovers, this day is for you, we salute you.... : \
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Tuesday 11 November
By charles harris53
i was out on a job site when i heard on the radio that 4 marines died in a helicopter crash at camp pendelton. there is no way to explain the emotion later on when the marines drove up with my family in the van.... i read where taryn hugged her husbands clothes where she could smell him. when they brought my sons personal affects to my house i wasn't there but my wife was. this was 1 month after his death. when i got home that evening my daughter was at the house . what broke my heart was my wife laying in the floor on top of and covered by my sons clothing crying . my daughter said she had been like that since early morning. my heart goes out to any parent, wife, husband or child who has lost a loved one in these wars.
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Tuesday 11 November
By Paula
Bravo, Taryn. I thank you for your service to our country... Army Mom, Navy Wife, Air Force Brat.
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Wednesday 12 November
By Kevin Quinn
God Bless our Veterans and their families for their service to our great Nation.
Semper Fi, Gunny Quinn (USMC 1974-1994)
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Wednesday 12 November
By Russ
Taryn,
I am a 63 yr old disabled vet from VietNam. What you are doing is wonderful.
I came home in 1967 to nothing and nobody who was interested in hearing my story. I've been dealing with it on my own for 40 years. It hasn't been easy. I haven't slep thru a whole night since then. But, I make it. Thanks again for the wonderful job you are doing.
Be safe.
Russ
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Wednesday 12 November
By Wanda
To Russ--I was really too young to understand what was going on during the Vietnam War. My husband, who I lost to cancer in Jan 07, loved history and taught me alot about it. I also worked for a man who was a Vietnam Vet and my daughter's babysitter's husband is one too.
What I know is that the war was very controversial and the way you all were treated when you returned home is heartbreaking--especially after all you witnessed and endured.
I just wanted to say I'm sorry you were alone and thanks for your service.
Wednesday 12 November
By Brandy
I am 28 years old and I lost my brother from cancer 1/20/07 He was almost 28 years old and that breaks my heart every day! My daughter six years old crys for her uncle thad everyday ! It SUCKS to loose someone you love period! My brother never served in the military but he was a Hero in my eyes, He didn't cry once knowing that he was going to die and when we would start to cry in front of him because we couldn't choke them back anymore he would calmly tell us to stop crying that it would be ok. He was worried about us more than he would even think about the pain he was in.
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Wednesday 12 November
By Wanda
I lost my husband to cancer 2 days before you lost your brother. That same year in Aug my only child went away to college.
We worked together for 24 years and were married for 22 of those years.
Yes, it SUCKS to lose someone you love and my husband was my HERO just like your brother was.
Thankfully for good friends and family I'm hanging in and continuing to run our business, but I miss him terribly!
God bless~~
Wednesday 12 November
By Bee
It's wonderful that Taryn has created a space for military widows to get necessary information in one place. However, I must contest the phrasing of "LACK of aid". I, too, lost my spouse. I'm not sure which branch of the service Taryn was associated with, but in my case, the Marine Corps at Camp Pendleton had a Casualty Coordinator at my home within hours of my husband's death. He helped me apply for all the benefits I was entitled to and gave me an enormous amount of information about organizations to assist me with all my needs (counselling, childcare, education etc..). In addition, a chaplin assisted me in explaining the tragedy to my child. Maybe I was just lucky to get such wonderful support. The emotional portion of these tragedies rests upon seeking help ourselves through friends, family and other surviving spouses. I think the organization connecting other women in similar situations will help a great deal. However, I can't help but be grateful that I have VA benefits to assist me, because there are non-military widows out there that are left without anything when their spouse passes.
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Wednesday 12 November
By George
THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG HERE, ITS WHATEVER WORKS BEST FOR YOU.. I AM GLAD FOR THIS YOUNG GIRL FOR DOING WHAT SHE DID. IN OUR CASE THINGS WERE DIFFERENT. THERE WAS NO ONE FOR US AND WE WERE THE BAD GUYS AND WE HAD TO GRIVE ALONE, HAD NO CHOICE. OUR SON KILLED IS WIFE (A PASTORS DAUGHTER) AND NO ONE FELT SORRY FOR ANY OF US EVER THOUGH WE FELT SO BADLY FOR THE OTHER FAMILY WE COLD NOT SHARE WITH THEM ANYTHING. LIFE IS NO GOOD SOMETIMES
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Wednesday 12 November
By JOANNE
HELLO, I THINK WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS GREAT, BUT MY QUESTION IS THAT I PUT A WEB SITE ABOUT MY GRANDSON AND HOW HE WAS MURDER BY HIS FATHER, AND NO ONE HAD NOTHING TO SAID. BUT THESE KIDS THAT GET MURDER BY THERE PARENTS DON'T HAVE NO IDEAL THAT THESE THING ARE HAPPENING TO THEM, THEY ARE LITTLE KIDS THAT DID NOT ASK TO COME TO THIS WORLD ANYWAY. BUT THE PEOPLE THAT GO TO THE WAR HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAID YES OR NO. SO IT IS NOT LIKE THEY DON'T KNOW THAT THEY COULD BE KILL. I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM, BUT THE KIDS NEED TO GET MORE HELP, BECAUSE THEY DON'T HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THEIR LITTLE YOUNG LIFE. MY GRANDSON WAS 9 MONTHS OLD WENT HIS FATHER THROUGHT HIM IN THE LAKE, AND I STARTED A FOUNDATION IN HIS NAME TO STOP THE VIOLENCE. SO WE NEED TO THINK ABOUT THAT ALSO. THE FOUNDATION IS CALL CHARLES EDWARD TYSON OUTREACH FOUNDATION. THE WE SITE IS CJTYSONOUTREACHFOUNDATION.COM. THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME TALK. GOD BLESS YOU WITH YOU MISSION. PLEASE TAKE A LOOK AT THE WEB-SITE AND LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK.
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Wednesday 12 November
By ANGELA MAYE
I LOST MY HUSBAND ALSO. IT WAS NOT IN THE MILITARY BUT THE LOSE IS OVERWELLMING ANYWAY. IT HAS BEEN TWO YEARS AND I HAVE NOT MOVED OFF SQUARE ONE. I PRAY EVERYDAY THAT GOD WILL HELP ME TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE AND I HAVE TO A CERTAIN DEGREE. IT IS STILL SO FRESH IN MY MIND. I AM TEN YEARS OLDER AND I JUST KNEW I WOULD BE THE FIRST TO GO. HE DIED A TERRIBLE DEATH WITH CANCER AT AGE 54 I WAS DEVESTADED. KEEP UP THE WONDERFULL WORK DARLING AND AT THE END OF THE LINE YOU WILL RECEIVE A GREAT REWARD FROM GOD. SINCERELY ANGELA MAYE
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Wednesday 12 November
By The Lt.'s wife
Taryn's project is amazing and empowering. It is so true that the support just isn't there, especially if you don't live near a major base, as many reservists don't. I am really shocked at the incredible lack of support for having my spouse serve in Iraq. I got a lot of nasty comments and shoddy treatment from people I thought were close friends. I've had to start from scratch and it's tough, it's got to be tougher in the blessedly small group of war widows. Though I pray every moment DH returns safely, Taryn has the right idea that if the support isn't there, you've got to pull it together yourself.
Loosing a loved one has got to be one of the greatest anguishes of life. Some people don't get this because they've never really been in love.
PS. DANA - my husband was also in a non-deployable position, but as the fine print says they can do whatever they want, he was pulled from his unit, retrained in a position he distains, and inserted into a unit from another state for mobilization.
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Wednesday 12 November
By ACE1
IF THERE WERE NO WARS. WE WOULDN'T NEED ANY OF THIS.
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Wednesday 12 November
By jerry pattison
OH RAH TO YOU,GREAT JOB
SEMPER-FI ALWAYS, BROTHER
USMC-RET
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Wednesday 12 November
By R. Joseph Mack
My condolences to Ms. Davis and others who have lost loved ones as I lost my son in 2002. I would strongly recommend Dr. Erwin Lutzer's book, "One Minute After You Die" -- may God bless and protect our troops. RJ Mack, www.robertmackfoundation.org
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