So, last week we heard that supposedly more women are cheating these days. This week, we're hearing that we're not that good at it -- men are supposedly better at catching us in the act than vice versa. Scientists at Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond found that women were right about whether or not their partner was faithful 80 percent of the time, while men were correct 94 per cent of the time. Men detected 75 percent of the reported infidelities, compared with 41 percent found by women.
But men might be right more often because they're more paranoid than women. The study revealed that they also tend to suspect infidelity when there isn't any. The scientists point to this bent as one born from evolution: A man wants to be sure the kids he's supporting are indeed his own. And it might be a good thing, since the same study found that women "under-report" infidelities by about 10 percent. (Is that blissful ignorance or purposeful denial? Discuss.)
"We found evidence suggesting men may be more motivated to seek out information that resolves suspicions about the sexual fidelity of their partners, and this may contribute to their greater accuracy," lead researcher Paul Andrews said in the UK Independent.
But men who assume the worst may actually be projecting for their own transgressions (perhaps like Dennis Quaid toward Meg Ryan?). More men than women in the study had cheated, which we say is the pot calling the kettle black: If men have cheated or been tempted to cheat themselves, they're more likely to be wary that you will, too.
Tell us: Has your significant other ever been suspicious of you? Have you ever dated a jealous guy?
Also on Lemondrop: Some nice guys who wouldn't cheat on you in a million years.
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Ben Stone (Seth Rogen), "Knocked Up." A beautiful woman with an unbelievable job agrees to unprotected sex with an out-of-work Canadian stoner, under the cinematic pretext of "beer goggles." Please let us know what she was drinking so we can buy stock.
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Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack), "Say Anything." Oh, Lloyd Dobler. Now that we know that kickboxing was not, indeed, the sport of the future, following gorgeous, smart Diane Court to college in England without a job or prospects of his own just seems kinda pathetic.
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Andy Stitzer (Steve Carell), "The Forty Year Old Virgin." Steve Carell's hairy manchild had neither a driver's license nor a lick of sexual experience, but landed small business owner and hot single mom Catherine Keener. You know, cause he was so nice.
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Chuck (Adam Sandler), "I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry." A homophobic firefighter so broke that he agrees to marry his male coworker for domestic partner benefits lies to Jessica Biel about his sexual history. She falls madly in love with him. Who wouldn't?!
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Troy (Ethan Hawke), "Reality Bites." Unemployed musician makes romantic pronouncements about smoking Camel Wides and bitches at Winona Ryder even as he crashes on her couch and hits her up for free pizza. The love story of our time.
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Seth (Jonah Hill), "Superbad." Aside from a rather impressive collection of obscene drawings, this paunchy, raunchy dork seems to have little to offer the cute, funny girl he gets.
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John Beckwith (Owen Wilson), "Wedding Crashers." A gorgeous, altruistic senator's daughter falls for a "professional mediator" (who inexplicably never goes to work) who spends his spare time lying his way into parties and bridesmaids' underpants. Obvs.
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Ben Wrightman (Jimmy Fallon), "Fever Pitch." Boston baseball superfan and crap boyfriend constantly ditches his beautiful, successful girlfriend because the Red Sox "need" him. How adorable!
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Dante (Brian O'Halloran), "Clerks" & "Clerks II." A chubby dude with a creepstache and a series of crap jobs that he loves to whine about. Catnip to women like Rosario Dawson.
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Michael (Zach Braff), "The Last Kiss." A mopey man-boy cheats on his lovely, pregnant girlfriend with a college student, and she takes him back. In the movies, he's "conflicted." In real life, we call that "sleazebaggy."
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Thursday 06 November
By Tunsis
So this study basically concludes than men are better liars than women? So, what other breaking news is 'just in'? LOL!
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Thursday 06 November
By Angie
So in other words DJ is a gay man LOL.....
Tuesday 11 November
By john
yup, we men are better liars! tiss a fact. and yes i have cheeted many a times.
Thursday 06 November
By DJTALStudios
Actually everything about a woman is a lie! Your lips dont look that good. Your face doesn't look that good, your legs don't look that good, your boobs don't look that good... get it yet?
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Thursday 06 November
By cc
We're not the only ones who get plastic surgery sweetheart!!
Thursday 06 November
By mrhaley
Yeah, I get it .. you are gay!
Thursday 06 November
By joncdodge
Interesting study... a related article.....
10 Things You Should Know about Cheating...
http://www.curiousread.com/2008/10/10-things-you-should-know-about.html
Jon
Thursday 06 November
By jef
Yow! Someone's got some mommy issues !
Friday 07 November
By emily
good then stay away from us
nobody cares if you like us or not
Thursday 06 November
By Patty
Regarding the "Cheating" article, it asked if anyone ever dated a jealous guy. Well, I did and it was frustrating & maddening. I was actually living with my guy who had decided to quit his job just before I lost mine. He went back on SSI while I had to be out looking for a job. When I'd get back, the first question out of his mouth was, "What'd you do? Stop and see your boyfriend?" It wasn't as if I didn't already have a lot on my mind, so then I had to hear this crap while I was out pounding the pavement in this economic mess looking for some kind of income? I did leave him and moved in with a friend until I get back on my feet. You just never know..............
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Thursday 06 November
By Ruth
Yes, indeed Patty, I know all to well what you're talking about. I was married for 11 years. Totally in love with this man -- adored him! He begins to prepare for retirement and low and behold -- I'm cheating! You could set your watch by my comings and goings. They never called me "Routine Ruth" for nothing.
Anyway this man was insanely jealous. Too bad I didn't know about it before we married. I was accused of having affairs with my out-of-state brother-in law, his sister's fiancee, his co-workers and a whole host of people. Funny thing is, I was always the one staying at home and going to work when my ex-husband was going to annual golf outings, travelled to Europe to visit his nephew along with his nephews twin brother. Numerous trips he took "solo" so he claims during our marriage. Ample opportunity for him to cheat -- who would be the wiser?
I can't tell you how much emotional pain and suffering my ex caused me. Heck, I even took a lie detector test that my ex arranged and passed it with flying colors! Eventually, my passing the test was cast aside as some hoax -- I had to either have paid the examiner some extra money or I gave the guy oral sex for a passing grade. Geez.
It is a terrible thing to be accused of something you didn't do. Just terrible! Funny thing -- he always wanted sex with me -- all the time, despite my "alleged" cheating. Go figure! If I suspected cheating -- sex would be the last thing I would want.
We divorced in 2004 and I'm still struggling with the loss of my marriage. I made a promise to him, God, my family and his family in 1992 that I meant. And he goes and pulls this stunt. What a jerk! I wish I knew the truth -- was he nuts (mentally ill), cheating himself or what?
Thursday 06 November
By Lori
Yes, Patty, just like Ruth said, I too lived the same nightmare. My ex husband was so insanely jealous that regardless what I did, I was cheating. To constantly be scrutinized and under a microscope was maddening to say the least. He, on the other hand was the biggest flirt and would constantly be checking out other women or telling me how much women flirted with him. If he wasn't doing that, he was accusing me of cheating with every man on the planet. I realized that only someone who is so insecure with himself would pass judgment and accuse me of cheating without proof. He's made a complete idiot of himself trying to "prove" I was cheating and when he couldn't find anything, he'd accuse me of being more clever than he thought. He felt so inadequate within himself and blamed me for cheating because he was probably thinking of (or maybe did) cheat himself. I had enough of his insecurities, excess baggage and a multitude of other personality issues that I walked away and didn't look back.
Friday 14 November
By erin
ive dated several jealous guys and cheating guys and foud out that they are usually one and the same the jealous ones that are always accusing you of cheating are the ones that are in fact cheating themselves! ive been trying to tell everybody for years and now there is a study to back it up! whenever i get accused of cheating (and im not) red flags go up and i lose interest in the relationship......who wants to be with a person who cant trust you, there is no relationship without trust, ive called off 2 engagements because all of a sudden he kept swearing i was cheating when i was with him.....even if we were together at the time he accused me of cheating!
Thursday 06 November
By marlene
yea we get it DJTAL your gay!!!!!
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Thursday 06 November
By Jason
People in bad relationships, will use just about any excuse to get out of it. In my opinion. Both have the same, 50/50 chance someone is not being completely honest.
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Thursday 06 November
By lisa
so......I guess guilty concience isn't out of the question for jealous men!!
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Thursday 06 November
By Pam
This article is only as good as the person who wrote it. I was married for 26 years. During that time my husband continually cheated on me and denied it and at the same time accused me of cheating on him. I never did until the last year of our marriage., Guess what, he never knew it. What does that tell you? Tells me the one who is doing the accusing is the real cheater. As for me, after 26 years, I had enough. Happily divorced for 15 years now.
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Thursday 06 November
By Jessica
I think it's a difference in motives. Men cheat more often on pure sexual impulse and women are willing to plead ignorance because they know men create distinctions between emotional and physical attraction. I think they also feel an obligation to hold the relationship together. Women cheat because they want out of the relationship and aren't afraid to show it (so of course men are going to figure it out at some point if they think hard enough). Women can lie well if necessary. We can read the subtle expressions that scream "I'm lying" while most men can't tell when we're upset about something. If we didn't want to get caught, we wouldn't.
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Tuesday 18 November
By PANCHO
My brother is married for 16 year. The wife say she happy with him and children. she now 44 year old and very pretty. she now make exercise and lose much pounds, she now look more beautiful. I tell to him she may have idea for other men, he say I wrong. Why you think now she want to look younger? I don't know, I think she may want the other mans to want her.
PLEASE SOME WOMEN TELL TO ME WHAT YOU THINK?
Thursday 06 November
By therockofages
The ONE thing women do consistently well is bash men. Most are pious, self righteous, hypocritical, and self absorbed. Who needs 'em and for what? The author of this article sounds like a bitter, 'we are better than men in all things' feminist that was not hugged enough as a child. No matter what study, the minute it is shown that men do something better than women; women find a way to belittle men and use humiliation as their over used trick bag. I would not support another woman or her issues if she paid money. The one-way street has just hit a dead end. Any man that supports a woman without equal reciprocation is brain dead and just what she wants.
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