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According to a book I read recently, the old adage about having to do it by date number three is still in effect. In "Dating Makes You Want to Die (But You Have to Do It Anyway," by Daniel Holloway and Dorothy Robinson, the authors suggest, however jokingly, that a sex-free third date will make a guy think, "Crappo. A prude. I am out of here."I'd thought this an outdated notion -- or at least one that only exists on TV. I don't know about you, but the past few third dates I've been on, I didn't even kiss the guy, let alone drop my pants. (Am I a prude? No, I just need to start dating people I'm actually attracted to, but that's another story altogether ... ).
But I know I'm not representative of all daters, so I'm curious as to how many actually abide by this third-date principle.
(Overall, the book did make me laugh out loud once or twice. But it's more useful as a quip-heavy, pop-culture, metaphor-filled entertainment resource than a dating guide.)
So tell me: Is the third date your go-to sex date, or do you wait a little longer? Do you have a set schedule, or do you see how things go with each guy? Attached ladies, when did you finally get busy with your guy?
Jennifer S. is Lemondrop's resident dating and relationship blogger.
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Thursday 30 October
By Cherie amorr
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Saturday 01 November
By EndlessVox
Absolutely not! Three dates is way to soon for me, I don't even kiss before the fifth date, and I don't have sex unless I've been seeing him for about a month or more.
There's no mandate that says you HAVE to have sex, it all depends and the individuals and how the couple feel about each other.
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Monday 03 November
By sonny
No kissing on five dates? No wonder you are single. That is the silliest
thing ever. What if you click great and then he sucks as a kisser?
I understand no sex on many dates, but no kissing, Women like you
are what ruins the whole dating process.
I bet you stay single a long time.
Saturday 01 November
By yellowcatfrog@aol.com
I slept with my guy on the first date. However, I wouldn't go out with him until we talked for about a month over the phone. Eight months later, we're still dating and very much in love. But this is a decision that can be different for everyone. Follow your heart. You'll never lose.
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Monday 03 November
By Raea
I think that it all depends on a couple key factors:
1)How well you know the guy
2)How attracted you are to the guy
3)How emotionally/physically prepared you are
4)You're feelings considering the guy (If you really don't like him, don't sleep with him, that'll just breed resentment, trust me)
5) If you're sure that he's not using you, and you're not using him.
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Saturday 29 November
By Lana
mandatory wait- two weeks or three dates whichever expires sooner.
i am upgrading to 5th date now, or at least that is my goal : )
guys, however ,have caught on to the trend -- beware of the one setting multiple dates at short intervals, he may be giving an illusion of a relationship just to get intimate sooner.
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